The Connector and the Freedom Fighter Part 3

John Bowlby, a British psychoanalyst originated the Theory of Attachment. He was attempting to understand the intense distress experienced by infants who had been separated from their parents. Although Bowlby was primarily focused on understanding the nature of the infant-caregiver relationship,

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This Fever Can’t Be Measured with a Thermometer

Charlie: If you’ve been experiencing any or all of these symptoms, you may be a victim of a health condition that has been becoming increasingly prevalent in COVID-era in which we are all currently living:

  • Restlessness
  • Lethargy
  • Sadness or depression
  • Trouble concentrating
  • Lack of patience
  • Food cravings
  • Decreased motivation
  • Social Isolation
  • Difficulty sleeping
  • Difficulty waking
  • Frequent napping
  • Hopelessness
  • Changes in weight
  • Inability to cope with stress
  • And in the case of being isolated with another person,
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The Need for Love

Linda: Love is a universal need that is essential to our well- being and is the most important need of all. Love is not just a warm feeling towards another person.

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Complementarity and Polarity

Linda: People with complementary personalities can provide a missing link for each other. In theory, it sounds like this arrangement should work just fine. And in most cases,

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Finding Our Tribe

Linda: Chronic loneliness is an epidemic in our materialistic culture that fosters competition rather than cooperation and support. According to Elaine Aaron, author of The Highly Sensitive Person,

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Repairing, Sustaining, & Enriching

If you’ve been noticing lately that you and/or your partner are more irritable, short-tempered, impatient, critical, withdrawn, emotional, anxiety-ridden, depressed, or perhaps, ALL of the above, keep these three words in mind: YOU’RE NOT ALONE.

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Marriage as a Therapeutic Alliance

The dream of a marriage made in heaven is totally unrealistic…Every man-woman relationship must be worked at, built, rebuilt, and continually refreshed by mutual growth. ~ Carl Rogers in Becoming Partners

Linda: Contained within a marriage is an enormous potential to be a therapeutic partnership.

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Avoiding Explosions

When we see our differences as opportunities to develop our capacities, we begin to meet them with openness and appreciation. This shift in our perspective transforms ordinary conflict into an extraordinary gift,

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Counter Intuitive Moves

CharlieSeveral years ago I attended a lecture by a well-known spiritual teacher and arrived twenty minutes late. On my way in I asked the doorman to give me a condensed version of what I’d missed.

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Guidelines for Getting Complete

Here are some guidelines for addressing incompletions that you may find useful.

  1. Acknowledge to your partner that you have an incompletion. This can take the form of a simple statement such as “There’s something that I feel unfinished about and I’d like to speak with you about it.
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