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Boredom

Me or We?

Since the perpetuation of the species is the force that drives the longing for connection, it seems that we’d be wired to get along with each other with ease and pleasure, but for seemingly large numbers of us, that doesn’t seem to be the...
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Attraction

The Gift of Service

When the love that a couple enjoys is robust and full, it demands a wider arena for expression. Their grief in not being able to have their own children got poured into their work with the children they work with. Consider the story of...
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Commitment

Are You Holding the “Tension of the Opposites?”

Linda: Loving someone doesn’t mean that we always have warm and wonderful feelings toward them. Love is a stew flavored by a variety of ingredients — sometimes sweetness, spice, bitterness, or saltiness, and sometimes “the works.” Our ever-changing feelings, whether they are pleasurable or...
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addiction

The Soul of Valentine’s Day

Linda: I love Valentine's Day. It's one of my favorite holidays. I keep a box of Valentine's decorations in my garage, and hang them up at least a week before the big day to get into the spirit of the holiday. For some people,...
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Attraction

Relationship Breakdowns Are Under Rated

The exemplary marriages we know of have been earned. These relationships are true partnerships, built on foundations of hard-won trust that accrues over time. The struggles and efforts to reconcile what can often appear to be impossible differences create the groundwork for these marriages....
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Attraction

A Gift We Give Our Partner is What We Don’t Say

“Remember not only to say the right thing in the right place, but far more difficult still, to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment.” ~ Benjamin Franklin
Linda: Exemplary couples give each other the gift of clearing. Clearing is a term that describes the process of coming to terms with our own anger without ever speaking to the other person. It is an inside job. There are several methods that we can...
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Commitment

Beware of the Perils of Confirmation Bias

“What the human being is best at doing is interpreting all new information so that their prior conclusions remain intact.” — Warren Buffett
 

Charlie: If you’re like me you’ve often been mystified by others (including your primary partner) who appear to be unable...
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Commitment

Compassionate Self Care

Cynthia: "I just don't trust him anymore. There's no point in our even trying to work things out until Tom starts acting more respectfully towards me and shows me that I can trust him". This wasn't the first time that Cynthia had concluded that...
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Children

Hillbilly

A transcendent child


Vance is a hillbilly, at least that’s how he refers to himself and his relatives and neighbors in the Appalachian mountains. He was born and raised in Middletown, Ohio among large numbers of hillbilly transplants from Jackson, Kentucky deep...
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Commitment

Unusual Crucible

“There are only two tragedies in life: one is not getting what one wants, and the other is getting it.”-Oscar Wild
Linda: Crucible is defined as a place or occasion of severe test or trial. We tend to think of crucibles as a loss, illness,...
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