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7 Toxic Behaviors You Should Never Tolerate

Humans tend to normalize behaviors of close intimates, tucking certain responses and behaviors into folders labeled “Just the way he is” or “So typical of her.” We do that because, in the moment, we chose to stay in the relationship, even though the sailing isn’t always smooth; some of the time, we fail to recognize that we’re actually excusing behaviors that should never be tolerated.
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ADHD

5 Things People With ADHD Have In Common

We're just like you ...

Sometimes, when people find out I have ADHD, they look at me like I have two heads.

I do not, in fact, have two heads, nor do any of my shiny, squirrel noticing cohort. We have, in fact, the same number of heads as an identical sized control group.

And okay, my title is misleading, because what I'm actually listing here is five of the thousands of things that people...
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General

Facing A Crisis: 2 Tips On Steps You Should Take

How do you feel about the most recent traumatic event in the nation?Do you know what I am referring to?If not, don't feel bad as many of my clients and I can hardly keep up with all of the trauma and terror upon the land.
The recent Florida school shooting that killed 17 youths has traumatized many parents and their families. The kids/students who witnessed this tragedy will never see school the same...
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If You See Something, Do Something

If you see something, say something.  We're familiar with that term, but, I think it's time to take it a step further.
If you see something, do something.
We are accustomed by now, to know that public displays of anything showing vulnerability are going...
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General

Why Change Is Uncomfortable, But Necessary


In the span of three months I can’t believe how my life has done a complete 180 – new apartment, new job, new people - to go through so many changes in such a short time can be a lot to process. And while I know these changes are exciting and will be good for me in the long-term, it’s still overwhelming.

Sometimes change is thrust upon you, even if you aren’t ready for it. It’s...
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General

Craving Normalcy As a Gifted Person with Mental Illness

My whole life people have treated me like I’m special. I was the precocious kid who learned to read and play the piano while in kindergarten and was placed in a gifted program for fourth graders when I was in third grade. I was the high schooler who collected honors and awards.

Throughout my childhood and adolescence, I was constantly being told how talented I was, between my various musical and artistic gifts...
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Anger

Addiction and Self-Forgiveness

“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” That’s the first quote that comes up if you search Google for quotes about forgiveness.

This is fascinating given that so many people shy away from forgiveness for fear of giving up their...
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Creative Thinking

7 Things to Do After You’ve Finished Your First Draft

You’ve spent six months to a year breaking your story, outlining it, then sitting down to write the screenplay. You’ve finished your first draft. It’s far from perfect. Some people call the first draft “the vomit draft.” The important thing is – you finished it.

You might have been working a day job, writing when you could. You might have had to support a family, and had to make difficult sacrifices. It can be emotionally exhausting....
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ADHD

The Communication Problem

Communication Problems

I have a problem communicating. Actually, I have problems communicating. Plural problems.

And ADHD is behind them. Or at least my ADHD makes them worse.

And that means to be a good communicator, I need to guard myself, find coping mechanisms, put them in place and keep them there.

And the problems start with ...
Distraction
If communication is the art of conveying ideas, abstracts, and concepts clearly and succinctly, distraction is the art of...
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Coping Strategies

Mad as Hell: 4 Memes to Blow Your Mind

As a therapist I read threads on how to speak to your children about the FL school shooting.

I can't hear it.

I am paralyzed.

All I can do is post stupid memes on FB that do nothing. I can't find the words professionally or personally for myself, let alone my children, or any children that I see in practice.

     What a SHANDA (as we say in Yiddish).
     You've Done Nothing (said one...
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Anger

Being Kind to Perfection

Usually I am a superb driver, but with my sister and my nieces in the car, my level of distraction and excitement is through the roof.  We headed to dinner Sunday night at our favorite burger place and were discussing a store that just...
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And I Am An Expert?

People call me a "mental health expert" or an "expert on bipolar disorder." I have been interviewed a lot. I have been asked to share my thoughts. I have been paid for both and for each I answer with my honest thoughts and opinions....
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Creative Thinking

Connecting to Our Senses

When we connect to our senses, we become alive. We become mesmerized, and everything else melts away. We become immersed and absorbed. It's as though we travel inside whatever we're paying attention to: We travel inside a bowl of made-from-scratch spaghetti, swimming in the fresh garlicky sauce. We travel inside the stars we're staring at. We travel inside the flower we're smelling, inside sweet jasmine or intoxicating gardenia.

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General

How Fast Can I Go?

I am a rapid cycler. In terms of bipolar disorder that means that your moods can fluctuate quite quickly. With regularly bipolar 1, mood shifts are months apart. With rapid cycling they can be days, hours, minutes.

Let tell you about waking yesterday morning. I had great dreams for a surprise so I was in an excellent mood. Then shifted to desperate sadness. Next up was some hallucinating. Then rage. All this happened in less...
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