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Asperger Syndrome

Asperger’s And Non-Aspie Relationships

Having a partner with Aspergers when you’re a “neurotypical” can be challenging at times, and Aspies can sometimes be confused and frustrated by the needs of neurotypical partners. If you are the neurotypical partner, it helps to understand that your partner processes differently and has different needs and expectations, and is not uncaring, trying to hold out on you or deliberately trying to upset you. If you are the Aspie, you need...
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Emotional Intelligence

The 5 Skills of Assertiveness – And How to Get Them

There are few words that I hear misused more than the word “assertive.”

Everyone has an idea about what they think it means, but I have seen that many people actually know only half of the definition.

That missing half makes a huge difference.

Pause for a moment here and think about what “assertive” means to you. Come up with your own definition.

Did your definition describe standing up for yourself? Speaking your mind? Telling people how you feel...
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Emotional Intelligence

A Better Way to Teach Kids About Emotions

How many emotions can you name? According to researcher, Brené Brown, the average adult can only name three emotions: happiness, sadness, and anger. A recent study indicates there are actually only four basic emotions to begin with: happiness, sadness, anger, and fear. From this vantage, we're getting it 75% right!

However, in my experience of teaching emotional intelligence skills to children, it's clear that the ability to distinguish nuanced emotions is a powerful tool in boosting resilience. For example, when children are aware they are jealous as opposed to just sad, the ability to process the emotion and make choices...
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Emotional Intelligence

Stop Saying, “You’re so smart!” 3 Better Ways to Praise Kids


“You’re so smart!”

“You’re so creative!”

“You’re so . . . [insert convenient, but possibly damaging description here]”

The other day during a frantic scramble to get my one-year-old to music class, I watched her perform her latest trick—slipping into her little gym shoes and tightening the Velcro straps all by herself. She then stared at me as I sloppily filled the stroller with diapers, toys, string cheese, and other random items until I rattled off something...
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Child Anxiety

3 Magic Words to Connect with Your Tween


Does your tween suffer from abandonment issues?

If you are a nurturing parent, you are probably balking at this question. Most of us associate abandonment with physical conditions, such as inadequate nourishment, inadequate clothing, physical abuse or literally leaving our child without care. If you provide for the well-being of your kids, how could they possibly feel "abandoned"?

While we're busy providing children with the necessities, it's sometimes easy to overlook cultivating the emotional environment...
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