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Personal Thoughts on Completing the Cycle

MentorCONNECT. To me, you will always be a gleam in your founder's eye.

This week, something big happened.

Something I created, built, lavished with love and care (not to mention most of my time and cash) and then parted ways with - the better to give it the freedom to grow on its own - grew in a way I wasn't expecting.

Specifically, back in 2009, I founded a nonprofit organization called MentorCONNECT. We had...
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Our Fascination with the (Alleged) Soul

Two of my three curious and impatient flock mates eagerly vying for a tasty tidbit of scrambled eggs.

Imagine someone gives you a really great gift.

It's so great, and you know this because they tell you, "This is the greatest gift anyone will ever give you."

But then they say, "Now don't open it."

"What about just a little peek?," you inquire (sweetly).

"Nope - you can't look at it."

"Well when CAN I look at it?,"...
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How to Let Your Life Be Kind to You

One of my favorite images - my parrot, Pearl, was born knowing how to be kind to himself (which is a good thing, since his mommy needs frequent reminders!)

Lately, I've been reading a book titled "On Living" by hospice chaplain Kerry Egan.

When I like a book, I really, really like it.

(If I have it on loan from a friend or the library, sometimes I also consider not giving it back. Ever.)

In...
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What Sex and Dying Have in Common

For those of you who are just joining us here, just so you know, I have a mild phobia of death.

I often blog about it.

Mostly, I am afraid of what I don't know. Like, will death hurt? (if so, a little or a lot and where and for how long - more detail would be great here).

Also, will I like where I go after I die? What if I don't? Are there other options?

Being somewhat of a perfectionist, I'd also like to...
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What Happens When We Die

If you, like me, enjoy hearing what other people think happens when we die (but prefer not to have to ask them this question yourself) this may be a good film choice.

I don't know (just in case you were wondering).

In fact, I have no idea what happens.

However, intriguingly, I am not in as large of a majority here as I once thought.

As this is my 46th year of life, certainly it crosses...
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When Ants Grieve

Bruce, taking a momentary rest from power walking.

Last week I went outside to take my box turtle, Bruce, for a walk.

When he finally stopped for a rest, I plopped down on the warm pavement next to him.

That was when I looked down and saw something extraordinary.

Right beside me, a colony of red ants was busily engaged in some kind of mandatory work-related conga line,...
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Why I’m Looking Forward to Getting Old

Somehow, turning 45 (which happened just this past December) triggered what I can only call a "mid-life fear of death crisis."

For anyone who is just joining us here now, it probably won't surprise you to learn I blogged quite a bit about this issue last year.

While I have continued to ponder and reflect on my oddly cantankerous relationship with the reality of my own death, I haven't blogged...
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When Trauma Turns Into Euthanasia

Recently my friend and colleague Jenni Schaefer sent me a link to her story of recovery from post-traumatic stress disorder, aka PTSD.

Jenni and I have known each other for yet until I read her post, I didn't know she had been a victim of rape. I also didn't know she had struggled for many years with PTSD as a result of the rape.

To hear Jenni tell it, for a...
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Why I’m Not Quite as Afraid of Death Anymore

Annie Kagan, brother to William Cohen (aka Billy Fingers) and author of "The Afterlife."

This past month or two, I've been posting a fair amount on what appears to be a "mid-life fear-of-death crisis."

While I'm not totally sure what brought this on, I suspect it has something to do with watching my best friend's parents pass last year (both...
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Why I’m Afraid to Die

While I'm typing about my fear of death, my little tortoise, Malti, is blissfully soaking up the sun and exploring the big wide world of lawn, leaves, and delicious (gulp) dead

Yup. I said it.

I said the thing I said I...
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RIP Robin Williams

Robin Williams in one of my all-time fav flicks (image courtesy of IMDb)

Well, shoot.

It is awfully hard to believe he is gone.

I am so very sad!!

In a recent Facebook post about his death, Williams' friend, writer Anne Lamott, shared how sad she is, and also shared how she has always viewed laughter as "carbonated holiness."

As a...
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The Role of Death in Mentoring


Oh boy.

Here we go, right?

"The role of death in mentoring"? Will anyone even read this? Will they have nightmares?

I hope not.

In a previous post I shared that, for the last couple of months, I have been training to become a hospice volunteer. One of our assignments was to read a book called "Final Gifts."

This book, written by hospice...
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Mentoring from a Hospice Bed


Lately I have been training to become a hospice volunteer.

Encouraged by a close and fellow recovered friend who counts being a hospice volunteer as one of the most moving and meaningful experiences of her life to date, I have waded into an arena that my nuts-and-bolts, reasonable, answers-happy self knows little...
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