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Before Heading Home for the Holidays




Holidays, family meals, and reunions can include “spirited” conversations, and “enthusiastic” exchanges of opinions over the dinner table. The combination of reuniting with family members that we don't see very often and with whom we may have some residual unfinished business fueled by a...
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Children

We Are So Different Part 2


Learning from the differences.
Charlie: In this process we came to see that it was our wounds themselves that were to become the source of much of the growth and healing that Linda and I would experience together. These wounds included emotional injuries from our early original families as well as the many painful wounds that we inflicted upon each other during the years that we were groping blindly towards some means of trying to keep our...
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Attraction

We Are So Different Part 1

Linda: When Charlie and I met 50 years ago, it was inconceivable to either of us, that this relationship could go anywhere. He was an introvert, a real loner. I was an extrovert who loved to make contact with people. He was the quiet...
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Children

Hillbilly

A transcendent child


Vance is a hillbilly, at least that’s how he refers to himself and his relatives and neighbors in the Appalachian mountains. He was born and raised in Middletown, Ohio among large numbers of hillbilly transplants from Jackson, Kentucky deep...
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Attraction

Hera, the Greek Goddess of Marriage

Linda: Carl Jung coined the term archetype and defined it as the universal symbols in the mind that can be observed in dreams and myths. Archetypes represent our potential laying dormant in our unconscious mind. We can deliberately call them forth, and there are...
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Couples

Robodolls: Every Man’s Fantasy?

There is a race to produce the most lifelike sex dolls. These dolls are being produced by companies all over the world. Some early models are already available. They are made with synthetic skin, anatomically correct bodies, faces that make realistic expressions and brains that think for themselves and are able do everything from carry on a conversation to have responsive sexual intercourse.

Some people think sex bots are a good thing...
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Commitment

Coming Out From Behind the Image

Linda: Conscious loving requires us to come out from behind the security of our manufactured image, and bring a high level of authenticity into our life. This requires us to be fearless yet tender, committed yet open, engaged yet not attached, powerful yet yielding,...
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Commitment

Life-Changing Moments

Charlie: It doesn't take long to have a life-changing experience. Sometimes a weekend workshop will do it. Sometimes a chance encounter is sufficient. Sometimes a moment can be enough time to create a permanent life change.

Twelve years ago, I (Charlie) had one such experience....
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Communication

7 Kinds of Fake Love

There is perhaps no word in any language that is used as much as the word, love. It is viewed by most cultures as the thing that gives life meaning, as in “Love is the answer.” Good parents, we say, love their children. Good husbands love their wives. Good wives love their husbands. Good people love their country.

And yet defining what love is often escapes people. If...
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Attraction

What May Be the Best Advice Any President Ever Gave America

Like many of us of a certain age, I remember President John F. Kennedy’s famous words that he spoke in his 1961 inaugural address:  “Ask not what your country can do for you, ask what you can do for your country.” Over the years, I’ve found that this advice doesn’t just apply to one’s country but has applicability to many areas of life, and in particular, that of relationships. Yet while most of us would probably...
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