Getting Good Help

Linda: Many years ago, Charlie and I went to Brietenbush, Oregon for a couples’ retreat with Stephen and Ondrea. This was during the time when I feared that my marriage was dying.

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Rebuilding Damaged Trust

Linda: When trust has been severely damaged, there are ways to promote the healing process: 1) being willing to live in the unknown, 2) holding the tension of the opposites,

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Looking for A Magic Wand?

“Reciprocity is a deep instinct; it is the basic currency of social life.” Jonathan Haidt

 Linda: Altruism (in Dictionary.com) is defined as the principle or practice of concern for,

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A Big Do-over

Linda: A do-over is putting a correction in when you realize that you have made a mistake. It’s an opportunity to try or perform something a second time.

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A Blended Family’s Breakthrough

Michael and Jane‘s big challenge was one that many couples in second marriages face: blending two families without diminishing the integrity of the marriage. As all too many know from the first-hand experience,

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Don’t Protest, Request!

There is definitely a place in the world for protest, meaning to express a complaint of an action made by an individual or a group. Sometimes it can become necessary to make it clear that we don’t agree with something that someone has said or done.

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Did You Show Your Love Today?

Linda: Love is an action that shows our devotion in the many gestures we make for each other every single day. If the love that we feel only stays in our heart and in our mind and we don’t speak and show it,

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The Woman Who Stayed Too Long

Linda: The following are two letters I received from a woman I will call Lucia. She read a blog I posted that touched her, and she wanted me to warn other women to not waste years in a relationship that is draining their very life energy.

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Marriage as a Therapeutic Alliance

The dream of a marriage made in heaven is totally unrealistic…Every man-woman relationship must be worked at, built, rebuilt, and continually refreshed by mutual growth. ~ Carl Rogers in Becoming Partners

Linda: Contained within a marriage is an enormous potential to be a therapeutic partnership.

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