Marriage and Happiness

“The happiness of life is made up of minute fractions, the soon forgotten charities of a kiss, a smile, a kind look, a gentle word, a heartfelt compliment.” ~Samuel Taylor Coleridge.


6 Words That Can Change Your Life

Linda: One afternoon’s back-to-back appointments demonstrated that different individuals can need strikingly different things in order to feel loved. In the first session, Claire sobbed that she didn’t feel loved by her husband,


Before Heading Home for the Holidays

Holidays, family meals, and reunions can include “spirited” conversations, and “enthusiastic” exchanges of opinions over the dinner table. The combination of reuniting with family members that we don’t see very often and with whom we may have some residual unfinished business fueled by a measure of alcohol can create a perfect storm.


Feeling Lost? Part 1

Here’s a Map

Marriage is a pit full of pitfalls, devised by some devious deity for our conscious evolution. – Wavy Gravy

Linda: The path of committed relationship is challenging and rewarding.


The Real Reason You Get Attracted To People Who Are So Different

Relationships aren’t just about togetherness and connection. They are also about the spaces of separateness. While togetherness time promotes greater understanding and connection between both partners, the times between experiences of connection are just as important to the health and sustainment of the relationship.


Ten Steps to Overcoming FOMO Part 2

In our previous blog we addressed the concept of FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) and the dangers of being possessed by this insidious condition. In this posting we are offering ten valuable practices that are guaranteed to help to free you from the grip of FOMO and to enhance the quality of your relationships as well as the overall quality of well-being in your life.


Beware the Dangers of FOMO Part 1

I’ve known my friend David (not his real name) for over twenty years and we’ve always gotten along well. That’s probably, at least in part due to the fact that we share a lot of common interests and values.


Myth: Little Things Aren’t Worth Getting Upset About

“Take it easy. Chill out. Relax. Cool down. Don’t stress out. Lighten up. You’re making a mountain out of a molehill. It’s not a big deal.”

These are some of the things that I used to say back in the day when I didn’t want to hear Linda’s complaints when I failed to keep my word regarding something that I had told her that I was going to do.


Going for the Real Gold!

“Even if you should own a gold mine, you still have to dig.”

Linda: My friend Michael told me that his Bubbie (grandmother) shared this bit of wisdom with him about fifty years ago,


Change Your Mind, Change Your Life

When I left home for college, I thought that I had been admitted by mistake, and didn’t think I would graduate. I expected failure. I expected to fall in love but would probably be left by my beloved.


Non-reactive Listening

Communication is about more than speaking; it’s about listening.

Jules and Sue came into marriage counseling clueless as to why there was so much pain and suffering in their relationship.