Clearing

LindaClearing is a term that describes the process of coming to terms with our own anger without ever speaking to the other person. By developing methods to free ourselves from carrying the anger,

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Why Winning Doesn’t Work

Although arguments generally can’t always be avoided, it is possible to create arguments that produce productive, rather than destructive outcomes that result in greater understanding, trust, and mutual respect. Bringing about such an outcome requires that we begin with an intention to do so.

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Self-trust and How To Build It

Linda: Self-trust is not trusting yourself to know all the answers; nor is it believing that you will always do the right things. It’s having the conviction that you will be kind and respectful to yourself regardless of the outcome of your efforts.

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Needs

LindaA need is anything that is an essential component to promote well-being in our lives. Although these needs are not essential to your survival,

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Speculations, Assumptions, & Projections

CharlieThe word “project” has multiple definitions and two possible pronunciations. The noun, ‘project’ has an emphasis on the first syllable, as in “Writing a book is a fascinating and challenging project”.

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The Antidote to Arrogance

We often write about the virtues and qualities that promote healthy and mutually-fulfilling relationships, such as generosity, respect, commitment, and compassion, to name a few in the top ten. Cultivating these qualities through intentional practice will do a lot to enhance the quality of all of our relationships.

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The Secrets of Great Relationships

After hearing from many frustrated people over the years we’ve heard from a lot of disenchanted people who have felt very pessimistic people about their chances of creating a fulfilling long-term partnership.

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Sore Spots Part 1

Sore spots. We all have them. Those places where we get easily triggered, quickly defensive and irrationally reactive. It’s the emotional equivalent of being poked in a fresh wound. Those unhealed places in us that haven’t yet received sufficient care,

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Getting Grit Part 2

This is the second installment of our two part series on “Grit”, defined by Webster as “indomitable spirit; resourceful courage and daring in the face of difficulty.”

In case you’re wondering about what in the world would be sufficiently challenging to require such great strength of will and intention,
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Got Grit? Part 1

In case you haven’t noticed, relationships can be trying. They can try our patience, our strength, our commitment and the limits of our capacity for understanding. They can also challenge our belief that when people really love each other,

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