When our kids were small, we frequently took advantage of a time-honored means of averting potentially explosive interactions between us and one of our kids. It’s called a Time-out. For those of you who may be unfamiliar with this mechanism that has come to be a tried and true instrument in most parents’ tool bag.
Verbal abusers, manipulators, those with strong narcissistic tendencies, and otherwise toxic people wittingly or unwittingly use language to hurt and exploit others. Sometimes it’s because they feel insecure and want to attack others to feel better about themselves.
Since we live around people, we get all kinds of direct and indirect feedback from them. This feedback is about how we act, what we feel, and what we think in relation to their own values and worldview.
Linda: Lack of or a low sexual desire is the most common sexual challenge, about which physicians hear numerous complaints. Doctors and psychotherapists call this Hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD).
I’ve known my friend David (not his real name) for over twenty years and we’ve always gotten along well. That’s probably, at least in part due to the fact that we share a lot of common interests and values.
Charlie: The other day I caught myself feeling like a victim. Again. I’ve been writing and teaching about responsibility and accountability long enough to know that whenever I feel victimized by someone or something,
One of the most frequently-voiced complaints that we hear from our clients and students (and admittedly, it usually tends to be women who we are hearing it from) is “He won’t talk to me.” “I can’t get him to open up.