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Children

We Are So Different Part 2


Learning from the differences.
Charlie: In this process we came to see that it was our wounds themselves that were to become the source of much of the growth and healing that Linda and I would experience together. These wounds included emotional injuries from our early original families as well as the many painful wounds that we inflicted upon each other during the years that we were groping blindly towards some means of trying to keep our...
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Attraction

We Are So Different Part 1

Linda: When Charlie and I met 50 years ago, it was inconceivable to either of us, that this relationship could go anywhere. He was an introvert, a real loner. I was an extrovert who loved to make contact with people. He was the quiet...
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Children

Hillbilly

A transcendent child


Vance is a hillbilly, at least that’s how he refers to himself and his relatives and neighbors in the Appalachian mountains. He was born and raised in Middletown, Ohio among large numbers of hillbilly transplants from Jackson, Kentucky deep...
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Asperger Syndrome

Asperger’s And Non-Aspie Relationships

Having a partner with Aspergers when you’re a “neurotypical” can be challenging at times, and Aspies can sometimes be confused and frustrated by the needs of neurotypical partners. If you are the neurotypical partner, it helps to understand that your partner processes differently and has different needs and expectations, and is not uncaring, trying to hold out on you or deliberately trying to upset you. If you are the Aspie, you need...
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Attraction

Hera, the Greek Goddess of Marriage

Linda: Carl Jung coined the term archetype and defined it as the universal symbols in the mind that can be observed in dreams and myths. Archetypes represent our potential laying dormant in our unconscious mind. We can deliberately call them forth, and there are...
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Commitment

Coming Out From Behind the Image

Linda: Conscious loving requires us to come out from behind the security of our manufactured image, and bring a high level of authenticity into our life. This requires us to be fearless yet tender, committed yet open, engaged yet not attached, powerful yet yielding,...
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Communication

Using Mindfulness To Improve Your Relationships

When we hear the word “mindfulness”, many of us think about how being more mindful could benefit our physical health, reduce our anxiety, help us perform better at our job, or deepen our spirituality. Being more mindful can certainly bring about these changes. However, mindfulness can also strengthen our relationships with other people. How does this work?

The three “what” skills of mindfulness are:

Observe

Describe

Participate

Generally, we practice one of the “what” skills at a time, rather than trying...
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Commitment

Life-Changing Moments

Charlie: It doesn't take long to have a life-changing experience. Sometimes a weekend workshop will do it. Sometimes a chance encounter is sufficient. Sometimes a moment can be enough time to create a permanent life change.

Twelve years ago, I (Charlie) had one such experience....
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Communication

Smile Therapy

Is it fair or kind to ask someone who's depressed to try and smile?

Is this something a supportive friend or even a therapist should do?

Smile Studies

You may have heard that you use fewer muscles to smile than you do to frown, but that isn't necessarily true–the actual evidence seems hard to pin down. However, what is true is that when you smile, you improve your mood.
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Communication

How To Get Along Well With Others

Whether it’s your spouse, in-laws, children, friends, colleagues at work, clients, children, or people you encounter while going about your day, knowing how to get along well with others can greatly enhance your life, as well as the lives of those around you, in both personal and professional arenas.

Healthy interpersonal relationships and a strong social support system are counted among the most important elements in a happy existence. The following are some simple (although not always...
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Communication

7 Kinds of Fake Love

There is perhaps no word in any language that is used as much as the word, love. It is viewed by most cultures as the thing that gives life meaning, as in “Love is the answer.” Good parents, we say, love their children. Good husbands love their wives. Good wives love their husbands. Good people love their country.

And yet defining what love is often escapes people. If...
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Commitment

Great Communication

Linda: There is a big difference between speaking from our inner experience and speaking from our opinions. Speaking from our experience is expressing our feelings and needs. Speaking from our opinions is frequently characterized by thoughts, which are often critical and judgmental. There is...
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