The Facebook Political War
“There’s only a certain amount of retard I can take in a day, as I’m sure is the case with everyone, but Facebook now narrows the margin to 5 mins…
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Your Partner Is Your Teacher and Your Student
A primary law of relationships is that we are not attracted to someone who is just like us. The phenomenon of complementarity dictates that in general we will be attracted…
Deposits in Karma Savings and Loan
Linda: Some couples get caught in a higly conflictual style of communication where fighting is commonplace. Because trust is so low at that time, each of the pair is caught up…
Is Social Media Making Kids (And Adults) Lose The Ability To Think?
We notice that even adults including us who spend time on social media, whether for work or leisure, find transitioning to other activities can often be challenging.
A Surprising Finding about Romance
Linda: Sandra Murray, professor at State University of New York in Buffalo, researched the strength of illusion in romantic couples. Her inventory asked both married and dating couples to rate themselves,…
Are You a Champion of Repair?
Linda: No matter how hard we try, there are sure to be breakdowns of all kinds, misunderstandings, broken agreements, not having our needs met, unhealed wounds that get activated and other…
Who’s Responsible For Your Happiness?
When it comes down to it, we marry for one reason: we think that we’ll be happier than we would be being single. Human beings crave happiness and will do…
Lifting a Wet Blanket Off of Sexual Complacency
“You must dive deeper, a thousand times deeper.” Rumi Linda: If there is a heavy wet blanket weighing down your sexual desire, you already know that you are missing out…
Religion: The Elephant In The Room
Religion/spirituality is “the elephant in the room,” when it comes to mental health treatment, says Baylor University researcher Holly Oxhandler, Ph.D.
23 Signs That You Are In A Healthy Relationship
Most of us want to be in a happy, healthy, and loving relationship. Yet often we’re not sure how to go about finding such a partnership, or, if we’re already…
Sometimes a Marriage Has to Die in Its Present Form
Linda: Many couples know from their own experience how easy it is to become trapped in their roles in maintaining the family system. The pitfalls of such entrapment include feelings…
10 Tips For Making New Friends
In Is There A Remedy For Loneliness we didn’t agree with the idea that mindfulness is the main solution. Connection, getting out there and having real relationships, is even more…
The Precious Resources of Our Time and Attention
Most of us know that there are certain kinds of experiences that nurture our souls and other that don’t. We also know that “experiences” are not “things,” and that although…
Sorting out Relationships with the Parts Model
One way to sort out relationships is by looking within to discover various “parts” of yourself. It’s common to have different feelings and perspectives – even conflicting ones – toward…
All The Best Lovers Are Gracious Receivers
Linda: In the following story, you can see that being aware of howwe give and receive can make a huge difference. For an exchange to work, the receiver has to consciously…
Why Aren’t They More Self-Aware? Expectations And Asperger’s
Parents, teachers and partners always tell me that children/adults with Asperger’s Syndrome or NLD should be more self aware, not engage in annoying or rude behaviors and self-advocate when they…
It’s Never Too Late to Repair Damaged Trust
There is no statute of limitations regarding hurt feelings or wounded trust. The bad news is that the pain of unfinished business can continue for years; the good news is…
Marriage is Like Launching A Rocket
Linda: Just as a space shuttle burns about 90 percent of its fuel during the initial moments of its flight, marriage requires its greatest expenditure of energy during its early stages….
Healthy Ways to React to Common Toxic and Manipulative Words
Verbal abusers, manipulators, those with strong narcissistic tendencies, and otherwise toxic people wittingly or unwittingly use language to hurt and exploit others. Sometimes it’s because they feel insecure and want…
Humble Beginnings Can Give Birth to Great Achievements
Linda: Larry and Barbara didn’t begin their careers in medicine with a desire to become world-renowned experts in alternative forms of healing. It was their efforts to heal some of…