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Child Anxiety

When Your Parenting Style Wears You Out


Your four-year-old demands a bowl of ice cream for breakfast. You sense a forthcoming meltdown and quickly evaluate your parenting-style options:

(1) Permissive: Say “yes” (then prepare to serve cookies for lunch and cake for dinner).

(2) Authoritative: Say “no” directly and firmly (then prepare to stand your ground as there will likely be a protest).

(3) Exhausted: Scream “never” (because it’s only 7:15 and you’re already exhausted).

(4) Denial: Pretend none of it is happening and...
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11 Superpowers of Kids with ADHD


So, you've been told that you're easily distracted, impulsive, restless, and even hyperactive? You might have been told you have ADHD, which stands for attention deficit hyperactivity disorder.

You are not alone. In fact, 1 in 10 of your classmates might be going through the same experience as you. Of course, ADHD may get in the way of everyday things you want to do such as sitting still, or following through on something, or focusing for long but guess...
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Anger Management

50 Calm-Down Techniques to Try with Kids

Navigating childhood challenges can be stressful, and sometimes deep breathing isn't the solution that works for your child. When your child is in need of tension relief, try one of these techniques: Try an inversion. For centuries, Yogis have understood the calming power of bringing the head below the level of the heart, otherwise known as inversion. Whether it's relaxing in child's pose, bending over to touch your toes, or practicing a headstand, inverting the...
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Child Anxiety

What is the Opposite of Anxiety?


I wanted so desperately to talk to Suchin and Lucky, the 8-year-old sons of my parents’ friends visiting us from India. But my anxiety, circular thinking, and “what-if” questions got the better of me. So, I stood in the corner of our living room pretending to be obsessed with a Lego castle I had constructed earlier that day.

My dad finally moseyed over and knelt down next to me. In his ever-gentle...
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Child Anxiety

37 Techniques to Calm an Anxious Child


Imagine, you are driving in the car. You look in the rearview mirror and see your child trying to shrink into her seat.

“What’s wrong?” you ask.

“I don’t want to go to the birthday party.”

“But you’ve been excited all week. There will be cake and games and a bounce house. You love all of those things,” you try to reason.

“But I can’t go. There will be lots of people there I...
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11 Superpowers of an Introverted Child

There are several myths about kids who are introverts:


They are nervous
They don’t like other people
They don’t want to be social
They are basically shy people

If you're an introvert, you are not anti-social, you just react to your environment differently than some kids. You are certainly not shy; in reality, there is a notable difference between introversion and shyness. Shyness manifests when you’re scared of being judged negatively. An introvert is...
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Child Anxiety

When Your Anxious Child Rejects Your Help, Try This


The worry begins as a trickle in your son's (or daughter's) mind. It develops momentum and drops into his body causing his palms to sweat, heart to race, and tummy to ache. Finally, your child’s worry erupts:

“Mommy, what if I have a new teacher in school?”

“Daddy, what if I can’t find someone to play with?”

The words hit you. You, too, begin to worry both vicariously for him and about your ability to quell the worry. No...
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Anger Management

11 Superpowers of a Strong-Willed Child

You’re seven years old and you’re busy building the greatest fort that has ever been constructed in the history of the universe! Your mom comes over and asks you to put your shoes on because it’s time to pick up your sister from dance class. Naturally, you say, "I don't want to go right now."

Ignoring your genius innovation, your mom responds, “There is no one to stay with you here and we can’t...
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Child Anxiety

How to Consciously Parent an Anxious Child with 3 Powerful Tools


I recently had the honor of sitting down for a chat with Dr. Shefali Tsabary, pioneer of the conscious parenting movement. Conscious parenting is based on the idea that children have the power to spark a transformation so deep within a parent that we begin to learn and grow alongside them. In other words, raising children is also very much about raising ourselves as parents.

I asked for her insight on raising anxious children through the...
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Child Anxiety

11 Superpowers of Highly Sensitive Children


So you’re a highly sensitive child—you’re affected by loud noises, you don’t love crowded places, you’re more likely to notice different scents, and you might even have very particular eating tendencies. You process information and your environment, including sound, sight, smell, touch, and taste more deeply than others. While it’s true that your nervous system is on high alert - and sometimes the world can feel too big, too loud, too mean, or...
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Child Anxiety

11 Inspiring Quotes to Quell Anxiety

Sometimes it takes the words of others to soothe our own soul. If you're feeling anxious or have an anxious child, write a few of these down or print them out and keep them handy.

1. "The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another." ~William James 2. "When everything seems to be going against you, remember that the airplane takes off against the wind, not with it." ~Henry...
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49 Phrases to Calm an Anxious Child


It happens to every child in one form or another - anxiety. As parents, we would like to shield our children from life's anxious moments, but navigating anxiety is an essential life skill that will serve them in the years to come. In the heat of the moment, try these simple phrases to help your children identify, accept, and work through their anxious moments.

1. "Can you draw it?"

Drawing, painting or doodling about an anxiety provides kids with...
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When Your Child’s Anxiety is Making You Anxious: Repeat These 22 Phrases


As parents, we have a natural tendency to reach out to our children when they are anxious, scared, or stressed. What none of us can anticipate is how our children's anxiety will cause us to feel anxious, helpless, hopeless, angry, or desperate. The next time your child is ridden with anxiety, repeat any of these phrases. You will be surprised that your child will likely mirror your reaction.

1. This too shall...
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Child Anxiety

4 Jedi Mind(fulness) Tricks to Help an Anxious Child

"The Force is what gives a Jedi his power," says Obi-Wan Kenobi to Luke Skywalker. "It's an energy field created by all living things. It surrounds us and penetrates us. It binds the galaxy together."

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My favorite movies of all time come from the original Star Wars trilogy. Growing up, I often played with Luke Skywalker and Darth Vader action figures,...
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