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14 Quotes to Inspire You to Ditch Your People-Pleasing Ways

Is your need to please getting in the way of your happiness? Is it consuming your energy and leaving you depleted?

It’s a wonderful thing to be accommodating, generous, and want to make other people happy. But sometimes the need to please and approval seeking behaviors get in the way of your own wellbeing.

There’s a price to be paid for being “too nice.” You spend so much...
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How to Communicate Your Feelings


Getting in touch with your feelings helps you to understand yourself. And sharing your feelings helps others to understand you better.

Being understood and accepted are universal human needs. So, when you share your inner experiences and feelings, you’re more likely to connect in deep and meaningful ways. You’re also more likely to get your needs met, leading to happier and healthier relationships.

Sharing your feelings can be a daunting proposition. When you share...
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Book Review: The Assertiveness Guide for Women

Reading The Assertiveness Guide for Women will help you identify your thoughts and feelings, communicate them effectively, and get your needs met!
The Assertiveness Guide for Women by Julie de Azevedo Hanks, is an essential read for women who struggle to assert themselves. Women are especially challenged by assertiveness as they're often socialized to be compliant and "nice". But Dr. Hanks takes a deeper...
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How to Take Criticism Like a Pro


 

I was a very sensitive kid. Even a well-intentioned correction or constructive feedback would propel me into tears and a swell of self-criticism equal to or worse than the criticism of others.

I took things personally. I assumed blame when I wasn’t at fault or the expectations were unreasonable. This took a toll on my self-esteem. I felt inferior. And to make matters worse, I...
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What Are Healthy Boundaries and Why Do I Need Them?


Relationships need boundaries. A boundary delineates where I end and where you begin. It says this is how you can treat me.
What are boundaries?
Think of your boundaries like a property line. My friend Chris had a problem with his neighbor that perfectly illustrates how boundaries work. Chris’ neighbor would come into his yard and bring Chris’ newspaper from the driveway to his doorstep. She’d pick a few of Chris’ flowers along the way. Chris...
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5 reasons I Hate Asking For Favors, But Do It Anyway


 

We all need a favor from time to time. Your car breaks down or you need a last minute babysitter. Maybe you need an occasional ride to the airport or someone to bring a casserole when you're sick.

When my kids were small, I was in need of extra favors. I didn't have any family nearby to help. So, with two working parents and three kids, we occasionally needed to ask a...
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Why You’re Saying Yes, When You Really Mean No


Your coworker asked you to work late for him on Friday. As soon as the yes was out of your mouth, you regretted it. You have plans to go see that new Leonardo DiCaprio movie with your girlfriend. Now, you're going to have to cancel on her.

You were invited to have coffee with some of the moms from your daughter's class. The only problem is you have...
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