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Anxiety

What is Agitation?

"Sometimes, I feel like I'm walking on eggshells with you, Son. I never know if you're going to be nice or start yelling." -- my Mom

As you can imagine, this hurts to hear and even more to write. I, like many people with mood...
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ADHD

There Are People …

People ...

There are people who live in houses that look like magazine photos. That's not me.

There are people who have their future plotted out perfectly. And if things go differently, they know exactly what their plan "B" is. That's not me.

There are people who buy a book and when they're done reading it they donate it to the thrift store or a charity book sale or they take it to the second...
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Anger

Addiction and Emotional Abuse

“The truth is that the few times he was physical with me were tiny blips on a long timeline of subtle manipulation, public humiliation, controlling behavior and gaslighting.” So writes Leigh Stein of her abusive boyfriend in her Washington Post essay, He Didn’t Hit Me. It Was Still Abuse.

Despite the deeply painful impact of emotional abuse, many people don’t grasp its significance. There are no bruises and broken bones, so does it really “count”?

Our answer: it certainly does. Emotional abuse is real, and...
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Anxiety

What I’ve Learned by Stopping My Meds and Starting Again


“Listen to the people who love you. Believe that they are worth living for even when you don't believe it. Seek out the memories depression takes away and project them into the future. Be brave; be strong; take your pills. Exercise because it's good for you even if every step weighs a thousand pounds. Eat when food itself disgusts you. Reason with yourself when you have lost your reason.”
― Andrew Solomon, The...
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Anxiety

Tune Out the Bad News

I was recently interviewed by Meredith Carroll for her article in Redbook, "My 6-Year-Old Is Obsessed with National Tragedies — and I Doubt She's Alone," which is based on the author's experience that "it's practically impossible to go outside, online, open a newspaper, or turn on the TV and not have to pick your jaw up off the floor over an international crisis, natural disaster, or a national tragedy." The article specifically discusses how to talk to young children about tragedy or disaster...
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Anxiety

Bearing A Mother’s Fears Alone

In last week’s post, I wrote about how maternal can play out in a marriage. There were several comments about the post on my Facebook page that let me know the piece had clearly struck a nerve. At least a couple of moms who commented on the post could relate to the experience of holding more anxiety about children than their husbands. I thought I would explore this topic a little more this week...
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Anger

Addiction and Verbal Abuse

“You’re stupid. You’re an idiot.”

“What’s wrong with you? You’re crazy!”

“You’re worthless, you’re nothing.”

“You should never have been born.”

“You don’t shape up, I’m gonna kill you.”

All of these words and phrases constitute verbal abuse. That’s why just seeing them on a computer screen can cause...
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ADHD

Here’s To A Long Life

No stress? Really?

Someone sent me a link to some click-bait site recently because the content was all about being me.

Well, it was about being someone with many of my traits and predispositions.

It had the dubious, yet encouraging title, "People Who Are Always Late Are More Successful And Live Longer, Says Science" ...

Encouraging because, hey, who doesn't want to live longer? Well, most of us do.
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Anxiety

When Parental Anxiety Affects a Marriage

Maternal anxiety is a special kind of hell. Fear hijacks our nervous system and takes our thoughts hostage. When a child is sick, when he is careening off course, when we know something is wrong, even though we don’t know what it is, maternal worry can fill our days and nights with dread.

Sadly, it is also often isolating. Depending on the cause of our apprehension, we may feel ashamed of sharing it with others. Friends and...
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ADHD

The Don’ts Of Time Travel

Don't do it!

Last Friday we discussed how to time travel.

We learned that it is mono-directional and difficult to control.

And I told you how I learned to do it, and why I learned to do it.

I did not tell you why you should do it or under what circumstances it would be considered a good idea.
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Anxiety

How to Play Therapeutic Jenga

You may have heard of the popular game “Jenga.” Jenga is the classic block-stacking game made by Hasbro, where each person in a group takes a turn removing a single block from a tower and then balancing it on top of the tower until...
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