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Why Sexual Assault Is Based on Powerlessness, Not Power

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It's clear that rape and sexual assault are not about sex.

What is less clear, however, is that these acts are also not merely about power -- at least not power per se. They are rather a form of power, or lust, to objectify, diminish, dehumanize, exploit another.

This cannot be emphasized enough.

Like mass shootings and domestic violence, and pedophilia, intentional acts of violence, emotional or physical, are about deriving pleasure from...
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Narcissistic Abuse and the Symptoms of Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome


Narcissistic abuse is what a person in a relationship with someone that meets the criteria for narcissistic (NPD) or antisocial (APD) personality disorder experiences. The potentially crippling, life long effects of narcissistic abuse on a partner's mental health form a cluster of symptoms, not yet included in the DSM, known as narcissist victim syndrome.
Narcissistic abuse
Narcissists and sociopaths use language in specific ways, with a specific intent to take another's mind and will captive. The...
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What Is and Isn’t Narcissism: 3 Key Identifiers, 2 of 5

Many articles of late describe a narcissist as someone "in love" with themselves, absorbed with activities that promote their success, dreams and goals, skilled at charming others, attention seeking, and so on. Though a narcissist may exhibit these traits, and be charming, charismatic, successful and goal-oriented ... let's get real.

These characteristics, in and of themselves, are also essential human traits and, in varying degrees, describe behaviors of healthy persons who are driven to succeed in their careers at work or home,...
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