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Ode to a Paedo

You said you were the man,
The only man I could trust.

Then touched my young breasts,
while denying your lust.

So the game was on,
you'd screwed with my head.

Copped a feel every day,
while I lay in my bed.

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No More Incest!

Just when you think you've seen it all, heard it all, experienced it all, that's when you discover life can get sicker, more warped, more twisted, more disgusting than you ever imagined.

I knew my husband, Rhys, had been raped multiple times by his aunt when he was an innocent four-year-old boy. I knew his rapist had been raped by her father, Rhys' grandfather. I hoped the incest stopped there. It didn't.

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Is Jesus All You Need for Emotional Healing?

All my life I've watched people stand up in church and tearfully tell how all their problems were solved by inviting Jesus into their heart (a phrase not found in the Bible, btw.) And all my life, their claims bothered me. I just didn't buy it. No therapy. No counseling. No journaling. No learning. No soul searching. No recovery. Their testimonies implied that Jesus healed everything from pain from narcissistic abuse to addiction with absolutely no effort on their part, no...
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Alienated Fathers: Don’t you DARE Give Up!

'I had the plan, the place, the rope,' my husband, Rhys, told me. 'I was going to end it all. I'd been a loving father and a good provider. What I didn't realize is that my ex never intended to stay with me nor let me be a father to my children. I was merely a sperm donor to her. When she had the full quota of children, she took them away and sued me for every pound I made. I...
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Life as a Registered Sex Offender: What Is It Really Like?

Q&A, Part One of Three

Not long ago, I wrote a pair of research-based articles for Psychology Today, one discussing the different categories of sexual offending and the likelihood of recidivism, another on the way sex offenders are dealt with by the legal system. At the same time, I published a longer article on sexual offending for the Sex Offender Law Report. Taken together, these articles generated...
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