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The Controversy Of Halloween

There is a controversy over Halloween.

Some people on the 'religious right' label it as a day for the devil. I have heard stories of gangs who use the day for initiations and such. Whether that is accurate or urban legend I am not sure. Quite honestly I think it is a little bit of both.

To me the whole concept of Halloween seems benign. Little kids dress up in costumes and they go to their neighbor's houses....
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“Difficult” Behavior in Children — How Much Is Too Much?

When I worked as a house parent of a group home, a lot of people said to me [after finding out what I did] things like, “Oh, you take care of difficult kids? I’ll go ahead and send mine over to you, then. Haha.”

They would laugh, and I would politely smile, but I didn’t find it particularly funny.

I mean, I get what they were trying to say.

They were trying to commend me for...
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Communication

Using Mindfulness To Improve Your Relationships

When we hear the word “mindfulness”, many of us think about how being more mindful could benefit our physical health, reduce our anxiety, help us perform better at our job, or deepen our spirituality. Being more mindful can certainly bring about these changes. However, mindfulness can also strengthen our relationships with other people. How does this work?

The three “what” skills of mindfulness are:

Observe

Describe

Participate

Generally, we practice one of the “what” skills at a time, rather than trying...
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Depression

Living Every Day with OCD

Well, perhaps it's not just OCD. There's a soupçon or two of anxiety in the mix. A smattering of depression. And yes, OCD. Lots of it.

Every waking moment of every single day is like slogging through a quagmire, the ooze clinging to your feet, sucking, strangling,...
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Animals and Birds

Best Work Resume (or CV) for a Witch

My last column was originally called What Happens When You Ignore Bad Feelings? That might have been good for Halloween, right? But I chickened out and called it How to Stay in Your Happy Place. It's about an actress I know, who just got a great gig, but also lost a great

In reference to today's cartoon, have you ever noticed a separation between people who love animals and those who could care less? Can we just call them introverts and extroverts, or...
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Coping Strategies

Spooked Out Parents – 3 Tips to Lighten Up

With today's festive all-hallows-eve celebrations, parents of teens need to lighten up.

Scary?

Of course teens will get themselves into trouble tonight. They have to. They are actually given permission to dress up and test the boundaries on this night.  In order to learn how to control themselves, they test the waters.  The teen brain doesn't know the difference until it knows.

You just have to be clear that,

Goofing around is innocent, while bullying is...
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Anxiety

When Parental Anxiety Affects a Marriage

Maternal anxiety is a special kind of hell. Fear hijacks our nervous system and takes our thoughts hostage. When a child is sick, when he is careening off course, when we know something is wrong, even though we don’t know what it is, maternal worry can fill our days and nights with dread.

Sadly, it is also often isolating. Depending on the cause of our apprehension, we may feel ashamed of sharing it with others. Friends and...
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Addiction and Abortion

It’s common knowledge that substance abuse can lead to serious birth defects or spontaneous pregnancy loss. Yet fewer people realize that abortion can be a catalyst for alcoholism or drug addiction.

Studies show a strong link between present addictions and past abortions. Elliot Institute researchers...
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Hope

Today I Love This Spooky Day

Spooky grey Halloween day ...

Today I love this spooky day of activity and ambition. I love how much many people put into presenting themselves to the world in ways they hope the world will find entertaining. I love that, for the most part, they are trying to cheer the world, bring it entertainment, because they've discovered that you get back what you put out. I love hearing how excited some people...
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Bipolar Laid Bare

I Don’t Want to Get Out of Bed

I’ve been dealing with bipolar disorder for almost 10 years. In that time I have learned to carefully watch my moods and change my behaviors appropriately in order to handle them. I’m incredibly self-aware and function fairly normally. Most of the time. I can usually handle the downs of depressive episodes and the ups of manic episodes because I know what they are and that they will eventually resolve. However, there are just times...
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Poetry

Mother- A Poem In Remembrance

Publishing Caitlin Walsh's poem yesterday made me think about my own mother. My mother passed away seven years ago.

I went through a lot of pain and heartache when I was a child. When one is young you have nothing to reference your experiences with. Once a person becomes acquainted with the world one can begin to say how good or how bad one had life in their youth. But the process of growth doesn't stop their....
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- Mental Health Humor By Chato Stewart

6 More Halloween Facts You Didn’t Know

To a people ... who ... believe in genii, ghosts, goblins, and those terrific things that 'go bump in the night' get a flash
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Mental Health Humor by Chato Stewart
Headless Horseman: Hello kind woodland
Red Robin: Pumpkin Seed - yum.
Squirrel: Winter Stuffing
Rabit: Pumpkin Pie - Yum.
Caption: Anger Therapy Ultimately Vanquished the Headless Horseman.
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Kicking Perfectionism to the Curb

Far be it from me to imply that I've slipped the shackles of perfectionism. I HAVEN'T. I've been trying for sixteen years (well, off and on.) Actually, I've failed at that too. But if Part 1 about Perfectionism Purgatory rang a bell for you, hopefully this article helps you get free of it.

Here's a few Tips-and-Tricks that've helped me.

Go No Contact with Narcissists: If you haven't done it already, I highly recommend No Contact. You may live...
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