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Adult Children of Alcoholics

Recommended Books for Adult Children of Alcoholics

Adult Children of Alcoholics
After my recent blog post about growing up in an alcoholic family, I received a lot of requests for additional reading suggestions. We're fortunate that there are many helpful books for Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACOAs) on healing codependency, trauma, and dysfunctional relationship patterns.

Below are...
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Assertiveness

14 Quotes to Inspire You to Ditch Your People-Pleasing Ways

Is your need to please getting in the way of your happiness? Is it consuming your energy and leaving you depleted?

It’s a wonderful thing to be accommodating, generous, and want to make other people happy. But sometimes the need to please and approval seeking behaviors get in the way of your own wellbeing.

There’s a price to be paid for being “too nice.” You spend so much...
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Overcoming Perfectionism

How Perfectionists Can Give Up Self-Criticism

So many of us feel intense pressures to achieve more, do more, and be more.

We live in a technology-driven society that never stops. We’re constantly bombarded with “my life is perfect” messages on social media. It’s no wonder that so many of us feel like we’re not measuring up.

But what is it that we’re not measuring up to? Perhaps we need to take another look at how we measure our worth. Perhaps...
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General

10 Unbelievable Behaviors Of The Narcissist

*This article is "sticky" - it will remain at the top of this blog even when newer posts are published.

Do you know what narcissistic personality disorder is? Would you be able to spot it if you had to? For most people, their belief is that narcissism is "easy" to spot because laymen and pop psychology characterize narcissism as selfish ambition, arrogance, cockiness, inconsiderate of others, and a strong desire to...
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Anxiety

When Life Feels Out of Control, Focus on Yourself

Life has a way of surprising us – sometimes in wonderful ways and sometimes challenging us in ways we never could have imagined.

Most of us like to feel in control. We like things to be predictable. We like it when we can plan something and make it happen. We like it when other people do what we want them to do. We like things to go our way....
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Codependency

What Is an Anxious Attachment Style and How Can I Change It?


In my last post, What’s my Attachment Style and Why Does it Matter?, I gave you an overview of the three primary attachment styles (secure, anxious, and avoidant) and how attachment styles become the blueprint for our adult romantic relationships.

Securely attached people tend to have happier, longer lasting relationships built on trust. They feel comfortable expressing their feelings and needs. They can also...
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General

Physical Dependence vs. Addiction


A few months ago, a physician and good friend, Dr. Jennifer Schneider, called me out for inadvertently conflating physical dependence with addiction. What I have realized since then is many (maybe most) clinicians, not to mention the general public, have little to no idea that physical dependence and substance addiction are not synonymous. Hence, this article.

Physical dependence is a property (a side effect, so to speak) of certain drugs. Physical dependence occurs because your body...
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