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New Film: A Light Beneath Their Feet

We recently received an email message from Jeffrey Loeb, a film producer, announcing the release of his new film, A Light Beneath Their Feet. We haven't had a chance to watch it yet, but here are the details from Jeffrey:

A Light Beneath Their Feet stars 2016 SAG Award-winning actress Taryn Manning (Orange Is the New Black) as a young mother with bipolar disorder struggling with the looming departure of her daughter,...
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Advocacy

Stop Trying to Stop Enabling Bipolar Behavior!

Sandra lives with bipolar disorder. I am her psychiatrist or p-doc or shrink (as in Dr. Fink, the shrink). Sandra (not her real name), and I have worked together for many years. At today's appointment, she is moving a little slowly due to some back pain, but she tells me that her mood and energy have remained steady. That is outstanding news, because until a couple of months ago she was experiencing a terrible mood episode...
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Advocacy

Supporting a Loved One Who’s in Prison

From Joe Kraynak, co-host of Bipolar Beat: I have been corresponding with a young man who is currently being held in a federal detention center (FDC). I asked him to share his insights and advice for how friends and family members can support a loved one with bipolar or another serious mental illness who is in prison. He wrote this post.
Everyone knows the importance of communication in maintaining one's emotional and psychological well-being. Communication is even...
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Advocacy

Do You Hesitate to Call the Police?

Yesterday, I served on a panel of family members who have loved ones with mental illness, where we talked to a room full of police officers (approximately 30 of them) as part of their crisis intervention team (CIT) training. NAMI-WCI (West Central Indiana) provided the training.

As I prepared my story for the presentation, I realized that I am never the one who calls 911 when my wife is experiencing a manic episode. My wife has always...
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Anger

Defusing Confrontation with “I” Statements

Shortly after bipolar disorder invaded our home in 1999, a series of marriage counselors encouraged me to learn to speak in "I" statements. That was the advice I got from NAMI's 12-week Family-to-Family course, too.

My initial reaction was, "Great, not only am I a lousy husband, but now I can't even speak properly!" We had had 15 years of connubial bliss, relatively speaking, before the fireworks started, and I wasn't doing anything different,...
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Advocacy

If You Want a Certain Outcome, You Need to Work for It

In the mental health community, we often find ourselves wringing our hands when our loved ones fall victim to a flawed system. Too often, I hear of stories from family members who do everything right and have everything turn out all wrong.

They take their loved one to the emergency room in a psychiatric crisis, and three hours later, the patient calms down and is released with no follow-up care in place....
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Helping Loved One

Separating What’s Bipolar From What’s Not

One of the things I hate most about bipolar disorder is how subtly sinister it can be when a loved one is trending toward mania — not manic yet or even hypomanic, just talking faster and louder, blurting out statements that are a little too open and honest and perhaps hurtful, and being more self-centered than usual.

A lot of bad stuff can happen during these times to drive a wedge between loved ones,...
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Advocacy

“Unlisted” Impressions

Last Thursday, my wife and I attended a viewing of Dr. Delaney Ruston's documentary film Unlisted followed by a panel discussion. The film and panel discussion focused primarily on schizophrenia, but individuals with bipolar disorder and their families face similar struggles.

I was very impressed by the keynote speaker, Dr. Alan Breier, MD, who passionately and compassionately described the struggles of people living with schizophrenia. He called...
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