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Unveiling Your Authentic Self

If you are struggling with your past, if you feel as if events or what other people think about you defines you; If you find yourself in a cycle of despair with self critical thoughts, try this:

Become aware of when you are comparing yourself to anyone else, or a standard that was actually set by someone else. Once you become aware of your own habit of comparison, you will be able to see how this leads to self judgment. People who live with an unconscious mental habit of comparing themselves to others, or to a standard that they did not even set for themselves often suffer from what I call, “not-good enough-itis” The way to cleanse yourself from this dis-ease (not-good enough-itis) is to remind yourself that your mental habit of doing this does not fine you… and then reminding yourself mentally, who you really are, and what you authentically stand for. Once you reconnect yourself with your own values and your own standards, you become aware that the only reason to measure how close you are to your own values and your own standards, is determine what you next step in your own spiritual and personal path will be. Since you are improving yourself, for yourself, you can accept yourself exactly as you are and where you are now. You can remind yourself as you look longingly at your personal goal, that every day is better and better. Say, “I am good enough; I am making progress every day; I am unveiling my authentic self.”

Take some time to contemplate what your own personal values are, and then what your own personal self development goals are. Write down at Least two affirmations that are the positive truth about you. And remind yourself at least daily, that every moment, you are getting closer to your own personal goals, and you are getting better and better each day.

Remember that compassion and self forgiveness will open the door to unfolding the wonderful you that you truly are. Be easy on yourself, you are on a journey, not in a competition. Shift your focus onto your inner process and take time to nurture this; this will bring your focus away from outer influences that affect you, as you . Below is a quote from Maya Angelo, I couldn’t say this better than this.

“I don’t know if I continue even today, always liking myself. But what I learned to do many years ago was to forgive myself. It is very important for every human being to forgive herself or himself because if you live, you will make mistakes- it is inevitable. But once you do and you see the mistake, then you forgive yourself and say, ‘Well, if I’d known better I’d have done better,’ that’s all. So you say to people who you think you may have injured, ‘I’m sorry,’ and then you say to yourself, ‘I’m sorry.’ If we all hold on to the mistake, we can’t see our own glory in the mirror because we have the mistake between our faces and the mirror; we can’t see what we’re capable of being. You can ask forgiveness of others, but in the end the real forgiveness is in one’s own self. I think that young men and women are so caught by the way they see themselves. Now mind you. When a larger society sees them as unattractive, as threats, as too black or too white or too poor or too fat or too thin or too sexual or too asexual, that’s rough. But you can overcome that. The real difficulty is to overcome how you think about yourself. If we don’t have that we never grow, we never learn, and sure as hell we should never teach.”
Maya Angelou

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The Art of Self Acceptance

Dr. Barbara Bachmeier

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Bachmeier, D. (2015). The Art of Self Acceptance. Psych Central. Retrieved on June 6, 2020, from


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