Feeling Good in Your Own Skin
Sometimes one of the biggest challenges during times of recovery includes learning to feel good about oneself. If your life feels as if it has been shattered, and you are picking up the pieces, you might be filled with fear, self doubt, and shame. These are demons worth fighting. Overcoming these negative emotions can change your world. If you are working through your own personal recovery process and you are hit with these feelings, you might feel overwhelmed by them; However, you can win. Try this:
Train yourself to perceive and interpret “mistakes” as events. Rise above the idea that if your action results in consequences that cause you or someone else discomfort, that you are a bad person; and Rise UP to the idea that everything that happens, whether it is perceived as “good” or “bad”- “success” or “failure” is simply an opportunity to learn, and to improve your game of life, love and growing spiritually. By embracing all of you; the ups and downs, the times of chaos and the times of stability; the successes and the mistakes; you position yourself to keep learning, and to do better and better as you strive to reach your own personal goals, one step, and one day at a time.
Learn to pay attention to your thoughts, your self- judgments, and your mental habits of criticizing yourself. Become aware of the mental habits of negative thoughts that you want to change. Write them down. For each negative though habit/pattern that you become aware of write the opposite and absolute positive truth about who you really are at the core of your being. For example, if you find yourself thinking to yourself “I’m such a looser”; practice catching yourself thinking this thought; STOPPING the thoughts; and REPLACING the thought with the opposite and absolute positive truth about who you really are at the core of your being eg; “Every day I am better and better, and I am getting closer to expressing the beauty of my heart; I’m a winner!”
Remind yourself of the reality and truth that each day, you are simply unfolding unto your true self; your authentic purpose is revealing itself to you, and the person that is deep within you, is perfect. You can relax; Say, “I can relax, I am who I am, and this is good”. Walk, move, breath, and experience your own being in this way until this becomes your truth.
“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.”
― Lao Tzu
“You’re always with yourself, so you might as well enjoy the company.”
― Diane Von Furstenberg
“If you begin to understand what you are without trying to change it, then what you are undergoes a transformation.”
― Jiddu Krishnamurti
“The most adventurous journey to embark on; is the journey to yourself, the most exciting thing to discover; is who you really are, the most treasured pieces that you can find; are all the pieces of you, the most special portrait you can recognize; is the portrait of your soul.”
― C. JoyBell C.
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