New Year’s resolutions can be a great thing for a lot of people, and if they work for you that’s a fantastic thing and completely valid. However, they can also be a lot of pressure and can be tough to stick to. They can evoke feelings of guilt and encourage you to be hard on yourself in the longer term.
Big goals can be overwhelming
So many people put pressure on themselves to change so much in the new year, to set really big goals for themselves and this can feel really overwhelming, especially for those of us with mental illnesses. It can also make you feel really guilty or downhearted if you aren’t able to stick to these goals I’ve found.
Being kind to yourself
When you struggle with chronic illness and mental illness, you never know what is going to happen from day to day, you never know what you are going to feel able to do on any given day. It’s tough to make plans and I don’t think we should feel guilty because of that, whether this is in regards to the new year or to life in general. This can be a really tough time of year to start with especially if you are struggling, if you have had a hard year or aren’t feeling optimistic about the coming year. It’s important that we are kind to ourselves and do what feels best for us, so this new year I have decided not to set resolutions for myself.
Trying my best
My plan for the new year is to keep trying my best, which I do all the time. I try my best to cope with my mental illness and my physical illness, I try my best to be the best version of myself, to be healthy, to be the person I want to be. I am going to continue doing this and as I look back over this year, I can see that I have done that at every stage. There have been setbacks, but I have done my best. If I can make positive changes in the coming year that will be great, and if I can’t, then that is ok too. If I am doing my best, then that’s all I can do and I don’t want to feel that I am pushing myself to do more than I am able.
Feeling positive about 2019
That isn’t to say that I am not feeling positive about the new year because I truly am. I feel that it can be a really exciting time in my life and am open to what could happen. Things are very gradually heading in the right direction for me in my life despite my daily struggles, and I hope that this coming year they will continue to do so. Moving forward at a steady and gradual pace is more than ok by me, as long as I am heading in the right direction towards what I want my life to be.
Doing what works for you
If setting goals works for you and they help you to keep on track, to feel positive or to be motivated then that’s wonderful. For me, I am going to keep plodding forwards doing the best I can; perhaps that is a goal or resolution in itself in the end but however I look at it, it’s what I feel comfortable with focusing on.
I wish you all the best possible New Year and I hope that 2019 brings you everything that you wish for you. I hope that you are safe and warm tonight and that you are enjoying any celebrations you are having. Tonight I will be having a quiet one with some nibbles at home with my three dogs and my lovely husband.
Happy New Year.