“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” ― Eleanor Roosevelt
When was the last time you where doubting yourself and the direction of your life?
I imagine it was a time when you failed or experienced an unexpected challenge.
Everyone’s confidence takes a shot at some point in time. We make mistakes. We get undisciplined. We don’t do what is most important to us and life starts to feel less meaningful.
When this is the case our self-respect and self-trust can dwindle. We become less confident in the choices we make and don’t feel as empowered about our life.
When this is the case it can helpful to have a plan to bounce back.
So, here are a few tips to help you stay more confident and feel at your best.
1. Use Positive Affirmations – I know what you’re thinking! “How cheesy! I’m just supposed to say positive statements and all of a sudden my problems are gone!?” Yes sort of, but not completely.
Clearly positive affirmation can be idle if we aren’t intentional and disciplined, but when it comes down to it, we all have self-talk, and that inner-voice can either lift us up or tear us down. So you might as well start telling yourself things that will boost your confidence.
Create some statements and start focusing on these every day. Here are some suggestions.
2. Do what you enjoy and stay inspired – When we have pleasure and enjoyment in life we feel better. When we aren’t feeling up to par it is easy to let our passions and interests slip out of view. Staying inspired is uplifting and helps us stay more upbeat.
Doing what you enjoy also helps you take back a sense of control that you can create what you want, and that you don’t have to be stuck sulking about your problems.
3. Take care of yourself – Do you prioritize your self-care? When we aren’t feeling fulfilled with life it is often connected to our daily choices and habits. There are things we do that fill us help and things that drain us.
So when things aren’t going well don’t let these important habits slip away. Brian Johnson of Entheos calls these “Blissiplines“. Make sure to eat well, get enough sleep, meditate, or whatever your “Blissiplines” may be.
4. Respond instead of react – When we aren’t feeling at our best we may tend to be more reactive and moody. We may have a shorter fuse and lose a grip on our self-control.
The gap between stimulus and response is so important to help us make choices we feel good about and that keep our integrity intact. You will feel better about yourself as you start to respond intentionally.
Next time you have an urge to do or say something, pause, take a deep breath, and think about the outcome. Will it help you feel better about yourself or leave your feeling regret and guilt?
5. Always do your best – When it comes down to it, we will have good days and bad days. But even on a bad day we can focus on doing our best. That is really all that we can ask for right?
If you don’t feel great about yourself right now, simply make an agreement that you will do your best, no matter the results. Work hard, do what you can, and let go of the rest.