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How to Start Bridging the Gap Between Where You Are and Where You Want to Be


“The biggest emotion in creation is the bridge to optimism.” – Brian May

Sometimes we get so caught up in problems that we lose of a better future.

Instead of envisioning a future with happiness, health, and success, we become pessimistic and lose hope.

We stop striving to improve ourselves and our situation because we don’t notice a clear solution.

When clients I work with are in this predicament, I often use what is know as the “miracle question” to help them look for new possibilities and start taking action.

Many times people don’t realize what they want. They don’t have a clear vision for how they want their life to be, or they just know they don’t like the direction it’s currently headed.

We need to have some direction in order to create what we want.

We don’t need a 100% strategic plan, but we at least need the big picture.

Unfortunately there is no magic pill that can fix all of our problems, but we can start to build our optimism and create a more inspiring present and future.

So, here is the miracle question.

“Suppose tonight, while you slept, a miracle occurred. When you awake tomorrow, what would be some of the things you would notice that would tell you life had suddenly gotten better?”

In other words, if all of sudden your life was working really well for you, how would you know?

How would you be acting, feeling, thinking, and communicating?

When we really pinpoint what we want it helps us shift our focus from problems to possibilities.

The possibility that things can get better!

Instead of feeling stuck and hindered by the obstacles and challenges we are facing, we can instead start to notice how we can actually elicit change.

We can certainly create a better life for ourselves but it takes a belief that things can get better.

It takes actually envisioning a brighter and more fulfilling future.

What is one small step to help you create the life you desire?

What are you already doing that is working for you?

Bridging the gap between your current reality and your ideal life starts with taking action. We must be willing to practice and take steps toward what we want.

“If you want something you’ve never had, you must be willing to do something you’ve never done before.” ― Thomas Jefferson

How to Start Bridging the Gap Between Where You Are and Where You Want to Be

Joe Wilner

Joe Wilner is a life coach, licensed clinical psychotherapist (LCP), and drummer from the band Yes You Are. He is also creator of You Have a Calling, a blog and online community helping people discover and pursue their life’s work and mission. Through deep and personalized coaching, he helps ambitious, creative, and spiritually minded individuals make a greater impact, grow as leaders, and design a soulful life they are inspired by.

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Wilner, J. (2014). How to Start Bridging the Gap Between Where You Are and Where You Want to Be. Psych Central. Retrieved on June 6, 2020, from


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