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4 Tips to Help You Get Through Hard Times

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“The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.” ― Nelson Mandela

I have been getting some backlash about a few posts on this blog.

I understand that life isn’t always easy and we all go through difficult experiences.

I have my good and bad days. I make plenty of mistake and poor decisions that I have to bounce back from.

I have been through my fair share of difficult experiences and emotional distress.

To me, that is why I am so passionate about personal growth and uncovering principles about how we can live the best life possible.

It wasn’t always as easy for me to stay positive and be optimistic about life.

Frankly I used to be starkly the opposite. I used to be cynical, pessimistic, and generally pretty damn unhappy.

I worked incredibly hard at manage my negative thinking and learning how to be a more well-rounded healthy person.

Anyone can work on having a more positive attitude and outlook.

That is why I write these posts! I wouldn’t write about it if I didn’t believe it.

But, I do understand that it is easier said than done. Everyone has a different situation and has been through personal experiences that only they can really understand.

I get that.

I also don’t think life is meant to be easy necessarily. We will all need to find the strength to get through tough times at one point or another.

So when it comes to being at our best, building our “resiliency muscle” is crucial. There will come a day when we need to use our skills and emotional strength to deal with mistakes, fear, insecurities, and doubt.

So, if you are going through a difficult time and trying to bounce back, here are a few tips to get back on your feet.

Two heads are better than one

Social support may be the most important part of helping us cope and bounce back from adversity. Even when life is going smoothly we can’t do everything on our own. We all need support, encouragement, and resources to get through difficult times. 

When things aren’t going well surround yourself with uplifting people. Who can you turn to for social support? 

This too shall pass

When bad things happen it is easy to start focusing on the worst case scenario and how everything is going to fall apart. Let’s face it, the sky isn’t usually falling and most situations won’t last forever.

“Life doesn’t get easier or more forgiving, we get stronger and more resilient.” ― Steve Maraboli


I know some tragedies are never to be forgotten and certain illnesses are long-term. These type of circumstances are harder to be optimistic about. However we can still find ways to move forward and make the most of the opportunities we do have.

Be flexible like the palm tree

Change can be stressful. Many people resist change and struggle to adapt well. Fortunately we can steal from nature’s play book and learn from the palm tree. Palm trees are created to weather severe storms and high pressure winds. The palm tree is “flexible.”

The more mentally flexible we are the better. Life will have unexpected twists and turns, but if we are able to adjust and adapt along the way, we will persevere. We are created to adapt and change along with our circumstances.

Some people resist change, but change is inevitable. Instead of resisting, it’s better to explore how you can adapt along with what is taking place. Go with the flow and uncover what you need to do to create a solution

Don’t forget the fundamentals

When we feel stressed out and life gets hectic, we can sometimes forget to take care of ourselves. However, taking care of ourselves and maintaining healthy habits is crucial for emotional and physical well-being.

If you want to have more emotional stability don’t forget about the fundamentals like diet, exercise, and sleep. As well, habits such as meditation and other relaxation practices are a way to keep you emotionally balanced on a daily basis.

These are just four ideas that can help you bounce back from stress and overcome obstacles.

What else do you do to build resiliency and deal with hard times?

4 Tips to Help You Get Through Hard Times

Joe Wilner

Joe Wilner is a life coach, licensed clinical psychotherapist (LCP), and drummer from the band Yes You Are. He is also creator of You Have a Calling, a blog and online community helping people discover and pursue their life’s work and mission. Through deep and personalized coaching, he helps ambitious, creative, and spiritually minded individuals make a greater impact, grow as leaders, and design a soulful life they are inspired by.

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Wilner, J. (2014). 4 Tips to Help You Get Through Hard Times. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 30, 2020, from


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