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5 Ways to Start Growing into Your Best Self


“I want to grow. I want to be better. You Grow. We all grow. We’re made to grow.You either evolve or you disappear.” 
― Tupac Shakur

When it comes to being at your best it’s all about personal growth.

Think of what is possible if you are willing to learn new skills and habits, and practice these with discipline.

Who could you become and what could you accomplish with a commitment to personal growth?

We can become unstoppable if we’re willing to do the work!

I started my journey with personal growth in my early twenties. I am thirty years old now and have realized that developing mental, emotionally, and spiritually is like a marathon, not a sprint.

It takes time, effort, and commitment.

But that is also the exciting part about our potential. If we are willing to do the work we can have the life of our dreams.

It is through a willingness to grow, learn, and develop that we can improve our relationships, career, happiness, and health.

We all have the seed us success and potential within us but it has to be nourished so it can grow.

So, where do we start with our personal growth journey?

We start with self-awareness.

“We should not judge people by their peak of excellence; but by the distance they have traveled from the point where they started.” ― Henry Ward Beecher

You must start with where you are today and go from there. There is no fast track to reaching our potential.

Self-awareness is an important first step to growing into our best self because we must first assess where we are currently compared to where we want to be.

The gap between where you are now and where you want to be is where the work is done.

We must know what’s getting in our way and where we need to grow in order to bring about the personal change and achievement we desires.

So, I want to share five ways to become more self-awareness so you can become more intentional with your personal growth.

1. Make time for reflection

Self-growth comes by reflecting on our choices and mistakes, and in order to reflect and learn we have to slow down. Making time for stillness and silence allows you to drop the distractions and external noise that will cloud your insight and intuition.

By using meditation and mindfulness practices we can become more aware of the beliefs and thoughts that tend to dominate our life. We can find the answers to important questions and ultimately get in touch with a deeper sense of who we are.

2. Determine Values

Knowing our core values may be one of the most to crucial steps to begin improving our life. Our values are what is most important to us, and these serve as a compass for our decision making daily choices.

Determine your core values and start to assess whether you are living your life in alignment with these values or not. You will most likely find that when your decisions and behavior aren’t in alignment with your values you aren’t at your best.

3. Assess strengths and weaknesses

There are certain skills and traits you have that come naturally to you. Often these natural talents and characteristics better your life. As well, there are areas of weakness, even though we don’t like to admit it, which get in the way of what we want, and keep us from living the way we want to live.

Take an inventory of strengths and weaknesses as a starting place for personal growth. What are your personal competencies? What are your liabilities? Build on your strengths and develop areas of weakness.

4. Examine Habits

The choices you make each day can add up over time to have a big impact on your life, whether positive or negative! Ask yourself, “How are my habits influencing my life?” “What habits help make grow?” “What habits keep me stuck and floundering?”

Your habits are the building blocks for your future. If you want to create a certain lifestyle it starts with your daily habits.

5. Take a poll

A great way to grow our awareness about our personal growth status is by asking other people. The people we are closest to can serve as a mirror and reflect the progress we have made, and the areas of growth we can still benefit from.

Surround yourself with people who care about your growth and turn to them for feedback.

Ultimately self-awareness will help you stay on track with the desired results you want. It will help you recognize whether you’re making decisions that support or jeopardize your personal growth.

“We primarily grow as human beings by discovering new truths about ourselves and our reality.” – Steve Pavlina

5 Ways to Start Growing into Your Best Self

Joe Wilner

Joe Wilner is a life coach, licensed clinical psychotherapist (LCP), and drummer from the band Yes You Are. He is also creator of You Have a Calling, a blog and online community helping people discover and pursue their life’s work and mission. Through deep and personalized coaching, he helps ambitious, creative, and spiritually minded individuals make a greater impact, grow as leaders, and design a soulful life they are inspired by.

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Wilner, J. (2014). 5 Ways to Start Growing into Your Best Self. Psych Central. Retrieved on September 28, 2020, from


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