Borderline Personality Disorder

Letting go with Compassion


When I was younger I used to worry I did not have the socially acceptable number of friends.  I had a small circle of friends, and I realise now I had little in common with them and even less emotional investment.  I would also have my Chernobyl friends, ones whose intensity was akin to a hot burning romantic crush, flashing brightly down the sky like a shooting star before leaving a wake of acrid smoke...

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BPD and Me

Getting old is easy but getting wise is hard work.  Especially for someone with BPD.

Just because I have a recovered lived experience from BPD and I live a well life, does not mean I don’t ever get angry, pissed off, irritable, frustrated, bitchy, gossipy,...

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BPD: Toxic People

One of the best ways to look after yourself if you have BPD is to eliminate toxic people from your life.  And never look back.

Just recently someone briefly entered my life and tried to cause damage by backstabbing and making bizarre random accusations.  Luckily people I knew informed me of what was happening and I was able to make the decision to cease all communication with this woman, who apparently has a history of trouble-making.


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Borderline Personality Disorder: Open Letter to Emergency Department and Hospital Based Staff

People with a diagnosis of BPD are often accused of manipulation and splitting in psychiatric settings.  A quick Google search reveals that manipulation is the action of manipulating someone in a clever or unscrupulous way, the skilful handling, controlling or using of something or someone, to manage or influence skilfully, especially in an unfair manner, to manipulate people's feelings. I have never felt skilful, clever, influential or in control in an emergency department or hospital setting...

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BPD: NEA-BPD Family Connections Training in Australia

In Australia, many families are desperately struggling to connect and support their loved ones with BPD.  In order for things to change something has to be done differently.  This change can come about when non-BPD family members learn new communication skills.  Be the change you want to happen in your family.  You cannot change anyone else, only yourself.

Last year I had the incredibly good fortune to be able to attend the NAMI Conference in Washington DC...

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Why is Australia Afraid of Borderline Personality Disorder

A rising crisis and process of discrimination is largely being ignored in mental health within Australia. If people with mental illness are stigmatised within the general community, then people with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) are sometimes stigmatised and discriminated against within the mental health system itself.

BPD is a disorder of emotional dysregulation, inappropriate anger responses, lack of impulse control, interpersonal relationship difficulties with rejection and abandonment issues, paranoia, dissociation, self-harm and suicide ideation. It is widely estimated internationally that...

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The Therapeutic Underbelly of Borderline Personality Disorder

The most difficult aspect of Being Borderline is intimate relationships and that includes the special relationship we have with our therapists.  After nearly twenty years of (on and off and when needed) therapy, a certain familiarity happens and feelings, not always positive, can occur.  I will be honest here and I find that envy of my therapist and her happiness can threaten my internal security.  Because I know less about her than she does about me, I...