I  have a two friends who know two different people who have recently killed themselves and they don’t know how to process it, how to explain it. Let me share some of my own thoughts, having tried to kill myself on more than one occasion.

It isn’t your fault. Don’t carry around survivor guilt. Regardless of the signs, you did not know he or she would take his or her own life. That’s probably the hardest pill to swallow. Survivors tend to blame themselves – “Why didn’t I see this coming?” “What could I have done to stop it?” And in the end, the answer is probably nothing.

Before I swallowed all those pills in an effort to silence my mind and stop my heart from beating I wasn’t thinking about all the people I would be leaving behind, I was thinking about myself. Suicide is very selfish in that way.

When you die, people grieve. When you kill yourself I think it is, in a way different. It proves that you were so hopeless and helpless that you simply couldn’t handle this life. That is a sad thing.

Committing suicide or attempting to commit suicide comes from a very dark place. You feel isolated. You feel depressed. You feel mentally unstable. Many people don’t or can’t get the help they need. Another sad factor. But it is not meant to hurt YOU. It has nothing to do with you and everything to do with the suicidal individual.

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