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You Can’t Save A Mentally Ill Person

Sometimes, often times, it is hard to watch a mentaly ill person suffer – to watch a person starve themselves or hurt themselves or be depressed. All of it, in all its forms and fashions, it sucks. And if you are any kind of decent human being, you want to help. You want to save them from the hell the they are going through.

But here is the hard cold truth you don’t want to hear: You can’t save them.

They are wired different from the average population. The neurons and serotonin and other things in their brain are out of balance. That is why they take medication and attend therapy or go to psych wards. Doctors and scientists continue to work hard to come up with ways to treat the mentally ill.

But you, alone, cannot save a person. Don’t expect that of yourself. Don’t put that pressure on yourself. You are not responsible. And I hate to have to say this, but if the mentally ill person’s life ends in the worst way possible, know that there is nothing more you could have done.

Just love them and be there for them. At the end of the day that is all you can do.

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You Can’t Save A Mentally Ill Person

Elaina J. Martin

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Martin, E. (2017). You Can’t Save A Mentally Ill Person. Psych Central. Retrieved on September 22, 2020, from


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