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When Things Are Out Of Your Control

out of control spring roadI like being in control. Always have. So, when my computer crapped out on me this week, I was a bit lost. What could I do? I took it to a repair shop and left it there for days. It is like a painter without a brush. I was lost as to what to do with myself. I spent a lot of time trying to talk to people on the phone, but I am sure they can only take so much of my chatter.

Sometimes, life throws you curve balls – unexpected expenses, surprise visitors, break-ups, etc. – and you must adapt as best you can.

It isn’t (hardly ever for me) always easy. So what can you do when things are out of your control? Remember who you are and how capable you are of taking care of yourself. Remind yourself that you are a fierce warrior against mental illness. Try to keep in mind that there is an end in sight and that you will, I promise, once again be in control.

I got my computer back today and I feel whole again. Silly, I know, but you don’t realize how much something is a part of you until it is gone.

There are a million things out of our control – illness, family behavior, traffic, etc. In those moments when you feel lost and out of control of your own life, remember who got you this far. You. Every bad day you’ve had, you’ve made it through. Statistics say you will make it through this uncomfortable patch as well.

I totally understand having to hand over control of my life – I have been hospitalized 3 times. But maybe, at those times in my life, I needed to let someone else take control because I wasn’t strong enough, and that’s okay, because eventually I grew stronger and I took back control of my life – outside psych ward walls.

Try to accept help when it is offered and be patient. I know it is hard, but you will be in control again. It is just a matter of time.


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When Things Are Out Of Your Control

Elaina J. Martin

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Martin, E. (2016). When Things Are Out Of Your Control. Psych Central. Retrieved on December 6, 2019, from


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