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Dating Imperfectly

dating coupleIt’s been 6 months since my devastating break-up of a relationship of over 5 & 1/2 years long. I said I wouldn’t date for 6 months. Give myself some time to heal. Not do the rebound thing.

I am dating now and it is, for the most part, going extremely well. I guess the one main challenge is that the guy I am seeing and talking to also has mental health issues. Sometimes I am down, sometimes he is down. Some times I have anxiety, sometimes he does. He is not beautifully bipolar, just plagued by other problems of the mind.

He often calls me weird or tells me I am a mess. I don’t like that. I like myself – mess and all, and truly so does he. He also tells me I am charming and beautiful and have the best laugh he’s ever heard.

It is harder to be in this type of relationship, where not only do I need to lean on him, but he needs to lean on me. In my last relationship I was the one who needed to be taken care of and though things have changed, I still need that.

Don’t get me wrong, I am strong and fierce and taking Nashville by storm, all on my own (well, with my dog, Hope, by my side), but I still have bad days. I still have mood swings. I still feel from time to time that the top of my head is coming off. I am still being beautifully bipolar.

I’m going to give this a go and try to see if this is something I want to do. Maybe our understanding of each other will lend itself to an equal partnership, maybe it won’t, but I’d like to try and see.

Dating Imperfectly

Elaina J. Martin

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Martin, E. (2015). Dating Imperfectly. Psych Central. Retrieved on August 20, 2019, from


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