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Differences, Not Disorders

How Our Childhood Affects Our Health as Adults

It has been awhile since I've written. I feel too young to be writing it, but I have been dealing with some serious health issues. After being ill for a long time, I stubbornly visited a new doctor who referred me on to a specialist and now I have a diagnosis for what's been ailing me for years and increasingly getting worse until this summer, when I was too sick and weak for many weeks...
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Different, Not Disordered: an interview with Dr. Barbara Probst

We often hear the importance of treating children fairly, but at Attachment Parenting International (API), we advocate rather to love each of our children uniquely. Because every child—just like every adult—is one of a kind, each individual parent-child relationship forms to the distinctive shape of each other’s differences in temperament, interests, opinions, aversions, conversions and other subtle nuances of what makes each person and their interactions unique.

API celebrates every person’s unique traits, but...
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Differences, Not Disorders

On High-Reactive Temperaments and Secure Attachment

I attended a mother-and-tots group the other night. There were two babies in the corner, sitting in their car seats, one about two months old and the other closer to four months. The older baby was contently looking around, and the younger was sleeping, later waking to gaze out and only fussing when it was time to eat, afterwards being happy to lie on a blanket on the floor. I asked the mom of the...
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Differences, Not Disorders

You Are a Good Parent

There are many ways of raising children. Of course.

Some parents breastfeed, some don’t, and for the most part, kids turn out fine. Some parents stay at home with their kids, some parents put their kids in daycare, and for the most part, kids turn out fine. Some parents enroll their children in public school, others homeschool, and for the most part, kids turn out fine. There certainly are parenting styles that are...
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Conflict Resolution

Personality Differences Matter

Even with the healthiest attachment bonds, conflict will arise in our relationships. Healthy conflict resolution -- which keeps the attachment bond intact -- is done in a gentle, positive manner that promotes influence, guidance, and teaching rather than control.

Much of the root of conflict resolution resides in our own selves – in dealing with our own unresolved hurts and biases, as well as finding personal balance, so that we can control the urge...
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