Parents: Are you flourishing?
We, as parents, often ask ourselves whether we feel our children are doing okay – if they are flourishing? We are more likely to closely monitor this in our children and make adjustments accordingly so that our children can flourish.
But we are less likely to ask ourselves if we are doing okay.
It may be that we assume we are flourishing if our children are. Parenting is so personal, and by our very biology, much of our own self-worth can be tied into how well we feel our children are doing.
It may be that we feel selfish or guilty if we feel that we are not flourishing alongside our children – if we are feeling burnt out, if we feel that our life balance is off.
We may fear that if we take a bit of “me” time that our children will suffer, since they won’t be getting all of our attention.
Some of us may wish to give our children more attention than we had growing up, and so we may be timid to give ourselves more “me” time because it feels like we may be taking too much.
And it can take a while for parents to feel confident in their parenting approach, so that they are able to feel better about taking “me” time.
Or perhaps your children are at ages or stages that makes it difficult to take “me” time.
There may be another reason why you’re reluctant to make changes so that you feel that you’re flourishing, but balance a critical part of healthy, loving parenting. If you’re dealing with burn-out or trying to figure out how to gain more life balance, reading Attachment Parenting International’s Eighth Principle of Parenting: Strive for Personal and Family Balance can give you some ideas to get started on adding more “me” time to your life and start you back on the path of flourishing.
Brhel, R. (2014). Parents: Are you flourishing?. Psych Central. Retrieved on April 20, 2018, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/attachment/2014/10/parents-are-you-flourishing/