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She’s Got Asperger’s? The Underdiagnosis of Girls With AS

Dr. William Mandy has done some fascinating work exploring the conventional wisdom that many more boys than girls have Asperger’s Syndrome (AS). The research of Dr. Mandy and his associates show that girls with Asperger’s are under-diagnosed for a simple reason: they look very different from Asperger boys, who are our model of what AS looks like.

Dr. Mandy’s associate Rachel Loomis, DClinPsy, looked at 54 studies of the ratio of males to females with AS, and found the average result was 4 boys : 1 girl. There was a lot of variability among studies, however, in part due to how the AS was determined. Studies that used previous diagnoses of AS found a    4.5 : 1 ratio. However, studies that looked at who would meet the criteria for AS, whether or not they had been diagnosed previously, found a 3 : 1 ratio.

Intrigued, Loomis and Mandy looked at the study subjects, focusing on the personality and behavioral traits associated with AS, such as inflexibility, literal and black and white thinking, areas of intense interest, repetitive behavior, overfocus on factual details, getting “stuck” on a topic, and poor theory of mind. She found that when they looked at subjects whose scores were extremely high for having AS traits, rather than looking at the official diagnostic criteria, the ratio of males to females was now 2 : 1. Somehow, girls with AS traits weren’t being diagnosed with AS. Why?

The obvious answer is that girls with AS look different from the boys. The diagnostic criteria call for a lack of social engagement and areas of intense interest, which in boys were usually were fairly unusual.

When the researchers looked at the AS girls, they were more socially oriented than the boys. They often engaged in activities including others. Adult women with AS talked about being able to put on a social mask, having observed social behavior closely; this social mask often felt like “not me” and a lot of work.

Girls tended to camouflage AS behaviors. They realize early that their “real” selves aren’t accepted, and often prefer blending in with peers to feeling “weird.” Girls’ interests were also more gender appropriate. We think of AS boys as being experts on dinosaurs, train schedules or obscure math; the girls tended to be interested in less unusual subjects, particularly animals.

This is consistent with my experience. I’ve worked with girls with AS who are perceived as having friends because they are around other girls on the playground or text with other girls or boys. However, this doesn’t necessarily mean they sustain these relationships or find them fulfilling. One unnamed woman’s quote is especially poignant: “I can fit in, I can behave like others up to a point, but it isn’t me and doesn’t fulfill anything within me. It’s empty and meaningless.”

In my experience most AS girls do want to find meaningful releationships. They are more likely to find them with others sharing their interests; many stay in touch online.  All of my girls were very hurt by when they felt they weren’t accepted, and like everyone with AS, they had significant anxiety.

When diagnosed, boys are identified earlier.  Boy’s scores were found to be very low on a social communications checklist when they were 7, there was a dip at 10, and then a plateau of the same score at 13 and 16. Girls initially scored much more normally at age 7, also dipped at 10, and then scored much more like the boys at 13 and 16, ages where the demands and complexity of social communication are much greater.

Teenage years are often the worst. It’s hard for girls to understand why they’re not accepted. They often become increasingly cynical. Fitting in never really works, and they’re never really fluent in playing the social game. Being smart isn’t enough to get by. When they do have friends, they’re hurt that someone is their #1 friend, and they are far down the “friend list” for the other girls.

There are boys who don’t fit the typical picture of boys with AS too, and who have many of the same traits as the girls, and girls who are more like the boys. Each person with AS is a unique individual.

Clinicians are biased towards the typical male model, so an AS diagnosis often isn’t even considered for girls. Older girls are usually diagnosed as having borderline personality disorder, anxiety or depression without any thought of AS. Girls often have 4-5 years of treatment on as many as 5 anti-depressants and they have years of talking therapy with no suggestion of an AS diagnosis.

All of this misunderstanding and misdiagnosis makes it much harder for AS girls and women to understand themselves. They know they’re different but can’t define how. They are often extremely hard on themselves. For many, it’s a relief to have an explanation and a group that fits them.

It’s clear that mental health professionals, pediatricians, primary care physicians and school professionals need education on recognizing AS girls so they can help them. AS girls need support, understanding and coaching just like AS boys. Without a diagnosis, their lack of socially expected behavior is misunderstood so that teachers don’t like them. The more clinicians recognize these women at a younger age, the greater and more positive effect it will have on their lives.

She’s Got Asperger’s? The Underdiagnosis of Girls With AS

Marcia Eckerd, Ph.D.

Psychologist since 1985, serving on CT ASD Advisory Council, Professional Board SmartkidswithLD

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Eckerd, M. (2019). She’s Got Asperger’s? The Underdiagnosis of Girls With AS. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 2, 2020, from


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