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Make Some New Year’s Unresolutions

calendarAs we approach another New Year, people are writing and talking about the tradition of New Year’s Resolutions. A couple of days ago Chuck wrote a blog about questions you should ask yourself before making a list of resolutions. He promised that I would write a blog about how to go about making your resolutions. Well, I could do that.

For example, be specific and concrete. Don’t say you are going to support world peace—instead, resolve to contribute something to UNICEF, the United Nations fund to help children around the world. And don’t go overboard—like stating that you are planning on working out 5 times a week every week.

What happens when you get a bad cold or the flu? You mess up and then your resolution becomes unobtainable. Many people give up entirely when they experience a small lapse. Instead, make your goal more reasonable such as “I will work out most weeks of the year.”

Finally, make a resolution that gives you some reward. Intangible rewards come from feeling good something you’ve done such as when you feel for having broken bad habit. Tangible rewards are involve doing something nice for yourself when you accomplish your resolution, like splurging on a purchase you’ve put off or doing something especially fun.

Okay, so I wrote some tips on how to make resolutions. But, here’s my real advice. Don’t do it. Just stop. Now—they don’t work! For too many people, announcing that they are going to do something becomes a one step process. People say lots of things then don’t follow through.

Probably half of all adults want to lose weight, exercise more, eat healthy, or give up a bad habit. If New Year’s Resolutions worked, we’d all be thin, eating healthy, exercising more, happy, and having meaningful purposeful lives. But, New Year’s Resolutions obviously don’t really help people do what they want to do—at least not all that often. Doing works better than talking. So this year, keep your promises to yourself and just do it.

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Make Some New Year’s Unresolutions


Laura L. Smith, Ph.D.

Laura L. Smith, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist who specializes in the assessment and treatment of adults and children with obsessive compulsive disorder, as well as personality disorders, depression, anxiety, ADHD, and learning disorders. Dr. Smith is a widely published author of articles and books to the profession and the public, including: Overcoming Anxiety For Dummies (2E), Obsessive Compulsive Disorder For Dummies, Seasonal Affective Disorder For Dummies, Anxiety and Depression Workbook For Dummies, Depression For Dummies, Hollow Kids: Recapturing the Soul of a Generation Lost to the Self-Esteem Myth, and Why Can’t I Be the Parent I Want to Be? Her website is: www.psychology4people.com


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Smith, L. (2011). Make Some New Year’s Unresolutions. Psych Central. Retrieved on September 15, 2019, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/anxiety/2011/12/make-some-new-year%e2%80%99s-unresolutions/

 

Last updated: 31 Dec 2011
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