A new year has just turned the corner. Many people in my clinical practice have voiced hope that 2014 will be an improvement over 2013. This last year was difficult for many. There were deaths, divorces, cancer diagnoses, financial problems, temporary setbacks, and major issues to address for many.Think about what 2013 was for you. Make a list with headings such as health, employment, finances, relationships, legal issues, spiritual satisfaction, parenting concerns, loved ones, partners, extended family, and life in general. Where did you take a hit? Where were there highlights? What did you learn from your life events, losses, and grief?
For the coming year of 2014 it may be helpful to look at what people look for in a new year. What was it that made 2013 so unsavory and bitter? Here is my short list of things I have heard people say since October 2013.
Hopes for a New Year
A happy home life including partners and children.
Less stress at home.
No surprises being hurled in from beyond. No sudden death, no sudden illness, and no sudden accidents or assaults.
Better self-esteem. Being able to feel good about who you are and to accept both your strengths and challenges without apology.
Getting out of debt one credit card at a time.
Getting into that career one step at a time.
Working on relationships one conflict at a time.
Trying something new or doing something usual in an unusual way.
Helping others create more balance or peace in their lives.
Taking that dream into action.
Being the best person you can be to self and others.
Look at all the possible things you can do to improve your life and the lives of others. We are all in this lifetime together. I believe in each of us striving for our goals and I believe in helping others do the same. Some of us have that extra energy and happily share it with others.
Top List of Children’s/Teen’s Hopes for The New Year:
That mommy and daddy are happy.
That we always have enough food to eat.
For mommy to be well. For daddy to be well.
For mommy and daddy to love me.
For mommy and daddy to come back.
That daddy stops drinking.
That grandma lives a very long time, because I need her. She makes life make sense.
That the bully on the playground moves to some where else.
That I live long enough to know what my dreams for life are all about.
I hope the future will not disappoint me. I want to be someone special someday.
I hope all the grandparents will live a long time because they are wiser than parents.
I wish that in 2014 I figure out what I want to do with my life.
I wish all of you a very Happy New Year. May you be able to fashion wishes, dreams, hopes, desires, and the manner in which they can be manifest.
All the best,
Nanette Burton Mongelluzzo, PhD
Understanding Loss and Grief https://rowman.com/ISBN/978-1-4422-2274-8
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