Archives for February, 2012

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Self-Esteem And The Gift of Challenging People: Part Two

"The irrationality of a thing is not an argument against its existence, rather, a condition of it." __Friedrich Nietzche

This is the second part of the blog on Self-Esteem and The Gift of Challenging People.

We all know people who are challenging or difficult to know. In the earlier blog, I listed some of the characteristics of difficult or challenging people. We will look at the types of challenging people in today's blog.

Difficult people do...
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Self-Esteem And The Gift Of Challenging People: Part One

We all know people who are a challenge. We may love a challenging person or we may work with one. A challenging person can be your friend, a family member, or a neighbor. They are difficult and you may find yourself having to work hard to interact with them. They challenge you to find increasingly better ways to stay centered. They challenge you to become a better person.

Self-esteem refers to how well you value...
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Anger And Fear

Anger is one of the most misunderstood of our primary emotions. It often gets a bad rap. Anger is not the problem, but rather, what folks do with anger that contributes to its growing bad reputation.

Let's talk a bit about anger and the primary and secondary emotions that are a part of our human makeup.

Emotions are a lot like colors. Just as we have primary and secondary colors we also have primary and secondary...
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Secrets From A Therapist’s Playroom

As many of you have guessed by now, I work with children and teens in my clinical practice. Children are fresh and wonderful. They almost always tell the truth as they know it, at least to me. I enjoy teens for their energy and passion. I find that children and teens make a lot of sense. I understand that parents don't always agree. This is OK.

Over the years I have collected secrets from children....
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Sociological Stalking And Spiritual Bank Accounts

I have spent considerable time in Central Mexico observing, researching, and enjoying the old culture of Mexico.

I would like to share a story about the merits of observation. When in doubt, just observe. Sometimes I refer to what I do as sociological stalking.

For three evenings I decided to follow, at a distance, a tiny, old Mexican woman who was burdened with two thickly packed, yet colorful, bolsas...
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Held Hostage By Your Child

Many parents feel that parenting is a life sentence.

They feel taken hostage by their own children. This can take the form of emotional hostage taking, financial, interpersonal, physical, or spiritual. Let's take a look at this difficult subject.

When we give birth to a child we have already made a commitment to sustain the life of this new being. The child that grows inside the mother has a home, food, shelter, and an identifiable place...
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Secrets, Shame, And Guilt

“The man who talks too much or who does not know how to keep a secret is for the African a being without value”

A secret is something that is kept hidden.

We all know about secrets. There are quite a variety. There are good secrets; those we keep about the surprise birthday party or the special gift you have for someone you love. Good secrets can also be the confidences we keep for others that...
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Your Worst Fear As A Parent: Part Two

This is the second installment concerning fears in parenting. In the last blog we were exploring what you can do to take some of the fear out of parenting. We began to look at the Eight-Fold Path to Enlightenment as applied to parenting.

Although these steps are not going to take away the worry and fear entirely, they can perhaps help you to position yourself in the most mindful manner. When parents are mindful they...
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