Before You Respond to Another’s Anger..

before you respond to another's angerAntagonism is a term used to describe attention seeking in the form of blame, criticism and intimidation. When you are angry, you are vulnerable to being antagonized. Your logical thought processes have been swept away by a tide of emotional reactions and defensiveness.

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Why Do We Get Defensive?

Why Do We Get Defensive?

Why does anger escalate and damage relationships that did not need to be damaged? Why are some relationships stormier than they need to be? Why is it so hard to be happy these days?

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To Understand is to Forgive

To Understand is to Forgive

You can choose to replace your old, guilty mind-set with a one oriented around regret. Guilt means you are wrong and need to be punished. So they offer evidence, but this rarely causes the other person to change their mind and makes you angry.

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Angry Thoughts

Angry Thoughts

You need to look carefully at your angry thoughts and try to see if you are making errors in the way you interpret situations. It can help to examine long held beliefs about anger and challenge those,

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Unhelpful Beliefs about Managing Anger

unhelpful beliefs about angerMuch of the advice you think is helpful, actually has the opposite effect. It makes the situation worse and causes people to feel angry or misunderstood. The following are some examples of the advice you received that doesn’t help:

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Who Taught You to Manage Anger?

who taught you to manage angerWhere did you learn about anger management? Humans learn by mirroring others. This emerges on the first day of life. Stick out your tongue at a newborn, and the infant is likely to stick out his or her tongue in response.

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