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Choose to Change

A farmer found an eagle’s nest and saw the mother shot dead beside it. In the nest the farmer found a single egg, which he so he took back to his farm and slipped it under one of the hens.

The egg eventually hatched with the other eggs under the hen. It was raised with the chickens, it grew up spending its time searching for worms and clucking like all the others in the coop. That was the way it was raised and spend its formative years. It had no concept of who or what it was.

Then one day a large shadow sailed over the barnyard. Looking up the eagle chick saw the outstretched wings of a huge bird, effortlessly gliding through calm blue sky. Awestruck by this hugr and powerful creature, the eagle asked “what’s that?” “That” said another chick, ”is an eagle, the king of the birds, its realm is the sky, it controls the air, but we belong to the ground.” So the eagle looked up once more and saw many similarities and realized how different he truly was.

The eagle now had new information. He now had a choice. It could live and die as a chicken in the barnyard coop or it could spread it wings and soar into the air with the strength, skill and power of the bird above.

Your attitude toward life, its specific events and other people affects how you feel more then the events and people themselves. How you act on the basis of those perceptions, in turn, reinforces your attitude. If you see the world as a terrible place in which to live, other people as unfair, or life as having the cards stacked against you, you create a formula for anger, sadness or worry. Looking for the beauty in the world, seeing the positive qualities in other people and accepting that life has its ups and downs can lead to a healthier existence.

Like when you are leaving for work on a dark, cold, wet morning and you hear the announcer on the radio describe the day as terrible. Yet you child in the backseat is quietly smiling at you, delighted with your company and the safe, dry car. This is one example of how the same event can be perceived in two totally different ways. You are now the one who has a choice about which perception you listen to.

Choose to Change

Aaron Karmin

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Karmin, A. (2014). Choose to Change. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 13, 2020, from


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