When you’re learning to manage your anger in a nonaggressive way, the first steps consist of recognizing how anger feels for you, and getting to know the situations that produce it.
Unfairness arises in situations of powerlessness, disrespect and a lack of reciprocity in your most intimate relationships. Often in relationships you want something or someone to change, but you cannot make it happen, which fuels your desire to defend against this feeling of impotence. Sometimes you cannot even get your significant other to listen to you, which is surely the epitome of powerlessness. Such incidents are a common feature of everyday life as individuals act in their social roles of family and work.
As parents, we are probably all familiar with being provoked into a blood vessel-popping rage.