Is there anything more painful than watching your child suffer? But when we shield our kids from the lumps Life dishes out, we rob them of the critical growing-up experiences that will make them into strong, brave, confident adults later.
There’s a lot of talk these days about giving children self-esteem. It’s not something you can give; it’s something they have to build. Coach Graham worked in a no-coddling zone. Self-esteem? He knew there was really only one way to teach kids how to develop it: You give them something they can’t do, they work hard until they find they can do it, and you just keep repeating the process. -Randy Pausch
Here are three good essays on not protecting kids too much:
This goes for ourselves, too. We all need some challenge in our lives to keep us developing.
Here’s a great TED talk on why disappointment is not psychologically damaging.
And I like these small books, both of which explain in simple terms how anxiety develops and provide good suggestions for coping. I sometimes give one or both to an anxious student:
Extinguishing Anxiety, by Catherine Pittman and Elizabeth Karle
Little Ways to Keep Calm and Carry On, by Mark Reinecke