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Archives for August, 2010

Emotions and Feelings

The Victorian Perspective on Death

We are just now back from a trip to England, and the last thing I saw is the first thing on my mind to write about. We visited Nunhead Cemetery, one of the Magnificent Seven Victorian-era cemeteries on the outskirts of London.

For the Victorians, death was an everyday occurrence, a part of life interwoven with the rest. Loved ones of every age died slowly or suddenly, with terrible frequency.  Emotional bonds were...
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Relationship Perspective: The Old Joke About the Drunk and the Car Keys

Here's my rendition of a joke most therapists know very well:

Fred and Barney are having a few drinks in the neighborhood bar, and Fred decides it's time to go home. He says good-night and stumbles out the door towards the parking lot.

Half an hour later, Barney also calls it quits and heads out the door. He's surprised to find Fred still out there on the sidewalk, searching the ground under the streetlamp directly in front...
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Motivation for Schoolwork (and Beyond!)

One of my favorite students, Joe, is working on a summer assignment towards the AP Psychology class he'll be taking as a high school senior beginning in September.

Last year Joe took an extraordinary class offered at his school called Psychology and Literature, and I posted one of Joe's essays.

Now Joe is writing a paper with the following guidelines: Pretend that you are an expert in learning, and that our school system has hired you...
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On Euthanizing a Pet

Very early on the morning of July 27, I finally had our precious and wonderful old cat, Malcolm, put to sleep.

He had been disabled for months, after two strokes all but blinded him and reduced his mobility to a hobble. During those last days, we all knew that Malcolm might go at any time, and we did our best to emotionally prepare ourselves for his passing.

I also knew "Our Pal Mal" very well; he was...
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