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“Fifty Shades of Grey” for the Gray-Haired? Believe It!

“ED,” “VD” and “AARP”? Sex is happening for the senior sect! Are you getting ready? Valentines’ Day is fast approaching, and the movie ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’ opens this weekend. Love and yes, sexual fantasies are in the air…and not only for the twenty-somethings.

Don’t look now, or maybe, yes…envision this: Your middle-aged mother, father, aunts, uncles, even grandparents (maybe even you) are likely still “kickin’ it,” “getting a groove on,” getting “rug burn” or doing the “horizontal mambo.” And that’s a good thing. Better than milk, sex does a body good, regardless of one’s age.  Some of the benefits of sex include:

Better Quality of Life: Medical research and psychological studies have proven that sex and intimacy have a definite, proven positive effect on your physical and emotional well-being.

Relieves Stress: Sex relaxes the entire body, head to toe!

Improves Sleep: As people age, they may not sleep well or through the night. Great sex can ensure more zzz’s and you can wake up refreshed and ready to ‘go’ again.

Aerobic Exercise: Sex burns almost 200 calories per average act of intercourse. Now, would you rather be on a treadmill for an hour, or have sex with the man or woman you love? Which sounds like more fun, treadmill or titillation?

Reduces Chronic Pain: Regular sex has been shown to decrease ongoing chronic pain. This occurs via sustained endorphin release. Endorphins are the “feel good” hormones.

Psychological/Emotional Benefits: People who have regular sex have less depression, fewer suicidal tendencies and decreased anxiety. Sex—especially if it’s great—can put a smile on your face.

But with that great mind-blowing, endorphin-stimulating sex, comes some risk. Still.

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The United States Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) coupled with some medical researchers here and abroad have found climbing rates of many STDs in seniors. Herpes, Chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis, and even HIV and AIDS are no longer diseases only for the young. In fact, in seniors (ages 45-64+), rates for most of these infections has almost tripled in the past ten years.

The reasons why are many. There is a large number of “never married, no kids” middle-aged singles; widows/widowers, and recently divorced seniors in our society. Older “cougar” women are dating younger men, many of whom enjoy a sense of adventure. More socializing by the senior-living (even nursing home) residents. Online dating has become more acceptable to seniors. Retired from careers, many seniors are out having fun—taking cruises and participating in social clubs; plus the proliferation of drugs for erectile dysfunction (“ED”). Given these factors, many seniors aren’t monogamous and, because they think they no longer have to worry about pregnancy (which may not be true for all), many don’t use any protection from STDs.

So while you get your freak on—with or without chains and blindfolds—be sure to recognize that some mature women might still get pregnant, and men and women can get STDs. Have fun, but use discretion and pick your partners wisely. Also use protection, unless you’re sure you’re in a truly monogamous relationship and have seen documentation of your lover’s clean bill of sexual health. Party on, till the cops come knockin’!

Copyright 2015 Dr. Melody T. McCloud. All rights reserved.


“Fifty Shades of Grey” for the Gray-Haired? Believe It!

Melody T. McCloud, MD

Dr. Melody T. McCloud is a trailblazing obstetrician/gynecologist, author, public speaker and media contributor. She has received many awards including the "Health-Care Heroes ‘Physician’ Award” per the Atlanta Business Chronicle, and is also recognized as one of the “25 Most Influential Doctors in Atlanta." Dr. McCloud has been interviewed on CNN, Headline News, network affiliates, TBN, the Tom Joyner Morning Show; and her writings or comments have been printed in USA Today, Parade, Essence, Family Circle, Health, the Atlanta Journal-Constitution and more. She hosts a health blog at Psychology Today and, upon invitation, speaks nationwide to many organizations. She is a member of the Atlanta Press Club and many leadership organizations.

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McCloud, M. (2015). “Fifty Shades of Grey” for the Gray-Haired? Believe It!. Psych Central. Retrieved on August 15, 2020, from


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