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Brilliant Consumer Solution to Growing Texting and Driving Issue

My post the other day on texting and driving brought many responses, both good and bad.  One of them, however, blew me away.

The individual's ability to recognize the problem from both sides of the spectrum, acknowledge the challenges that each group faces on a regular day, and taking all of it into consideration allowed them to provide an innovative solution.

Often times, extreme views happen because we don't understand another person's perspective, and instead of trying to be a better listener we become a louder talker.  We find others on our side that agree with us to make us feel better about our own position, and condone anyone that thinks otherwise.  It's a normal human defense, but not one that is very productive to solving the many issues in society; all it does is shut off listening and polarize views further.



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Texting, ADHD, Kids and Driving: A Killing Combination and Proposed Solution

I've written recently about the issues that those with ADHD have with texting, including myself, and have been reading some startling statistics about texting and driving that must be shared.

As those with ADHD have increased distractibility, I think it's especially important that us ADHDers know this startling statistic and take serious note; Research shows that texting and driving can actually be worse than drinking and driving, and laws banning texting is doing little about saving lives.

I've always known it isn't exactly safe, but until it was put in that context it didn't register with me just how great the potential to destroy lives really is.  I've done things like limit my texting to when I am on the highway and at stoplights, readily making excuses for why I can afford to look away a few more seconds on long stretches and when I'm stopped.  But invariably my few seconds at the stop light turns into just one more after I've started, and before you know it those very restrictions I have put in place are over ruled by my impulsivity, excuses and justifications.



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The Red Dye Diet: The Concept

I have been wanting to write this book for some time, and since I don't want to make time I thought what better thing than to explore it in this blog.

Diet books are all the craze, and while I don't know much about red dye, research has suggested it can magnify ADHD symptoms and is hard to avoid.  So I thought I would do a mini-series on red dye, looking at what it is, how it affects the brain, what food it is in, and how we can avoid it with diet.  In this post, I am simply going to explore the 'what' of red dye.


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Tips for Being Fully Engaged in Your Sexual Experiences

People with ADHD often have a hard time fully engaging in experiences, as their mind is constantly jumping around from one thing to another.  As our lives get busier, sex seems to fall off the radar screen so we can do things like feed the kids, make money, and meet our ever-increasing obligations.

This can hurt both the mind and relationships, as a healthy sex life is important to both mental health and intimacy if you have a significant other.   Often times people 'fit it in' because that is all they have time to do.  Yet there a few simple, profound things you can do to get more engaged and have a fully pleasurable experience.



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Suicide, ADHD and Grief; There is No Escaping Pain

In many ways, it is a blessing to have ADHD because if something hurts you can quickly retract and move on to something else.  For those of you that do not have ADHD, imagine putting your finger in a fire.  Those with ADHD can quickly withdraw and move to something else, but don't learn much.  Those without ADHD, however, take longer to withdraw their finger but the burn is imprinted in their mind so they do not do it again.

It's how I see my ADHD.  I've had similar situations happen over and over again, and wonder what it is that I am not getting.  Why my behavior is not changing, and why I continue to throw myself into the fire again and again.  I have finally come to realize, through therapy, reading, and the constant struggles of 'why,' that I am simply not standing in the pain long enough to understand the lesson I need to learn.



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CNN and ADHD: Can An Organization Have ADHD and Why Does it Matter?

This topic has been really bothering me this week, primarily because of the story of the potential book burning in Florida that caused riots and outrage all across the world this past weekend.  CNN's behavior, in one way, reminded me of the downfall in my ADHD in that I get fired up about something, get out there talking about it, and don't always think through the consequences of my actions.

This impulsivity was really highlighted first with the balloon boy when I was trying to get a story published on depression but couldn't get word in because he was all over the screens.  It literally shocked me that there was high drama about the balloon boy event, but it didn't have such catastrophic consequences.  This weekend's coverage did.



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Sex and ADHD; A Blessing or a Curse?

Does ADHD effect your sex life?  Have you ever even thought about it?  I didn't, until recently reading that it can have both positive and negative influences on your overall sexual experience.

So the question it than raised for me is "Is ADHD a blessing or a curse for your sex life?"  It is such a complicated issue, perhaps it is both a blessing AND a curse?  I'm interested in hearing all of your thoughts after you read a bit more, and see how it applies to your own life.



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The Heavy Burden of Attempting Perfection; I Give Up!

I want to be a good person.  As a matter of fact, I strive to be a great person, and have big dreams for making a significant contribution to this world.  Unfortunately, my attempt at perfection continues to catapult me from a world of despair to joy to despair again.

The list of 'to do's' that us ADHDers have, and really anybody for that matter, is tremendous.  I mean, every day, I expect more than perfection and wonder why I feel so shitty.

Look at my list, who can do this?



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Texting and ADHD: A Major Problem Facing Youth and Adults

My problem with texting is ongoing.  It scares me, because I KNOW it's not good for me yet I still do it.  It is embarrassing and humiliating and my lack of management is getting me very down.  Even with all of my education and experience and knowledge of addictions, I continue to treat it as something I can control, instead of understanding the chemical reactions in my brain that are producing the 'high' that keep me at it.

My guess is it's the ADHD, and as much as we want to 'control' our impulsiveness we still have our brain chemistry that overturns our objectivity for immediate gratification.  I'm now reading that over 50% of all kids text, and about 10% send over 100 messages a day.  While it makes me feel a little better about my own habit, it seriously concerns me as kids are missing out on learning how to effectively communicate in person and are also setting themselves up for addictive behaviors.



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Seriously? NO Negative Self-talk Rule for Myself?

I'm writing today as a reminder to both myself and everyone else in the world that we are all a work in progress.  Beating ourselves up does absolutely NO good, in fact it usually makes things quite worse.  It is quite easy for me to say that to others, but so infrequent that I take time to remind myself.

I had a pretty severe therapy session yesterday.  I mean, I was hating me.  Everything about me.  I was especially focused on my inability to control my texting even after continual negative consequences on my romantic life.