Please, Don’t Call Me Crazy!

Why is it that being called 'crazy' is so bothersome? It's as if this one word cuts right to the core of our very being and makes us question our intrinsic worth. Yet what do we ADHDers do when someone calls us crazy?

We act crazy!

Crazy can mean all sorts of things; bizarre, fantastic, deranged, insane, or dangerous.  I, personally, am using it in regards to how we term 'unpredictable' behavior.  Often the word is thrown around, "You are acting crazy or that idea is crazy or did you take your crazy pills?!"  Something about it just sets me off.  People - call a spade a spade!  If I am acting in a way that scares you or seems out of character and unpredictable, tell me!


Passion and Non-attachment Juxtaposed; agreeable or abrasive?

One of my words for the year is Passion. Last night I was at a class that is serving as a type of spiritual grounding while I am on a project away from home. We read a poem and were asked to listen to what phrase or word spoke to us most, and I felt the passion jolt through my body when the words were spoken "I want to know" in regards to another person's feelings and thoughts.  "YES", I thought. I want to know.


What is Our Problem with Pharmaceutical Companies, Especially When It Comes To Drugs For The Brain?

I'm sure just reading that title incited strong reaction in most people.  They either love the companies, or hate them.  For some reason I think companies working to sell drugs to fix the brain have the worst reputation of all - and to this day I can not figure out why.

Let's face it, we can find fault in anything.  It is pretty easy to do, and it is usually our first line of defense when we fear something.  I think probably all of our biggest fear is the dark side of the brain, and unfortunately until we are all enlightened, we will all have a dark side to varying degrees.


How to Fight Fair; Simple Rules for Politicians, Teachers, Kids, and Relationships

The discipline of Psychology has come up with some fairly simple rules to follow for fighting fair, and it amazes me how each and every day we ignore these rules and suffer again and again from their lessons.

The recent shooting in Arizona has brought up a lot of this, but I am reminded when I hear of bullying, the divorce rate, and the constant battle of the media and politics.  While Psychology is far from perfect, it is an evolving discipline (as are we) and I would think we would take at least what we do know, and use it to our advantage.

Fighting fair is an art, and it needs to be taught in school and practiced throughout every relationship.  Yet it takes a great deal of discipline, and it seems few have it.   The amount of hurtful words we are constantly spewing out of our mouths, on an hourly basis, is creating a majorly toxic environment.  Our kids are learning how to treat each other through the television, politicians, adults, and teachers - and what kinds of fighting are we doing every day?  


Learning the Art of Presence

How often are you really present?  I don't mean just there in the flesh, I mean there with your heart and soul and eyes and everything that you are and more?

I'm reading Eckardt Tolle's "The Power of Now" and I am again reminded of just what a small amount of time I spend in the present moment.  It is as if my feet are planted but my thoughts are spinning and tumbling from one connection to the next to the next without me even be aware.  For those of you with ADHD, I am sure you understand what I am talking about.

I think this was developed as a defensive mechanism when I was a child.  When I got scared, my brain detached and went into its own mode to create a safe haven in a place of chaos.  It served me well as a child, as it kept me alive when I sensed danger.  Unfortunately, as I got older, it was that same mechanism that would potentially kill me.


New Years Resolutions Simplified – It’s Not Too Late!

I don't know about you, but I am so sick of New Years Resolutions because they seem to just add to my list of ever-growing feelings of a failure as an ADHDer.

I may start with one, and then forget about another one and by the time I remember I've already messed it up.   Then I feel so bad I screw it all up.  How is that productive?

So now I choose a word / words.  And focus on that word throughout the year - and anytime I think about my success during the year, I think about how my word relates to that success.  It works miracles and is amazing how it accomplishes the same thing, with much less stress.

My word / words?  This year I chose three, because it just felt right.  Usually it's one.  For a number of years it has been focus.  This year I chose a combination of mood, behavior, and state of mind that I was seeking.  So instead of coming up with a list of specific things that I can constantly criticize myself for failing at, I think of these three words:

Passion, Persistence, and Patience


Five Habits for Highly Festive Holidays for ADHDers

Holidays make us all crazy; travel, gifts, coworkers, kids, parents, cards, trees, decorating...  the list goes on and on.  Imagine being someone that has a hard time keeping track of just how to get through the week - let alone the holidays!  Welcome to how us ADHDers feel.

I've decided that in order to make it through the holidays, I'm going to have to prioritize doing some things that I know help me make it through my regular days - but religiously!  We use holidays as an excuse to slack off on certain good habits - but for people with attention span issues these things we innocently slack off on could be our undoing.


ADHD, Suicide, and Parenting; Giving Your Kids Tools for Coping with Depression and Suicide

It seemed fairly obvious to me that those with ADHD have a higher rate of suicide and depression, but I was surprised to learn that according to WebMD research both are 4-6 times more likely to occur in those with ADHD than those without it.

That scares me, and it's a tricky subject because some research suggests that when you talk to students about suicide it puts the thought in their mind, and they are more likely to try it.  Thankfully, recent research is starting to suggest that kids already know about it, so in fact talking about it does just the opposite and helps prevent it.


ADHD and PTSD: Finding Peace Among the Nightmares

I don't know how to say it any other way.  I've been fortunate enough to have gotten treatment throughout my life while continuing to develop coping skills, yet it's the reality of my situation.  Some days I wake up sobbing, a feeling so intense from the nightmare that I feel I can't breathe and I can't quite imagine how I will make it through the day.

The PTSD was easy to diagnose, and it happened early on so thankfully I've had comfort in at least understanding on some level what is going on in my brain.  The nightmares, various escapes, intense pain, depression, and necessity of my body to shut down when that pain is triggered is pretty clear.

While I still have all of those issues, my capacity to endure pain, ability to understand and care for others while in that pain, and reduction of escape routes grows daily.


The Century of Speed in the Nation of Speed; overwhelming for those with ADHD.

I don't know how to say it any other way; society is overwhelming me.  My brain and head has been spinning for weeks trying to get my hands around the problem, but it's so big.  As I review the changes in the U.S. economy, technology, and communication, it makes my ADHD spin.

I run a for profit company (technically) and manufacture light bulbs.  When I attempted to get them manufactured in the U.S., I couldn't find anyone willing to do it.  Everything was done in China or Mexico.