4 thoughts on “Our Brain is Hardwired for Abuse; Extra Challenging for Those with ADHD

  • August 24, 2010 at 6:05 pm

    How timely! Just yesterday, I let go of an unhealthy work relationship…and wondered why I KEEP getting in to these situations. Thank you! This helps me understand the challenge. I must make a checklist before taking on the next project — to assess the situation more realistically and (hopefully) react appropriately. Wish me luck!

  • September 28, 2010 at 5:46 pm

    I was only recently diagnosed ADHD, but remember growing up in an abusive and unstable home. I did not have that unconditional love to keep me grounded and from an early age used food to help cope with the lack of good feelings I should have experienced at home. Food also gave me a very relaxed feeling helping keep my mind occupied. It is really amazing to learn the connections between what I went through then- and having ADHD. So much has come to light and the more I read about it- the more my life unfolds, giving reason to the madness I have suffered from my entire existence.

  • May 4, 2011 at 10:30 pm

    I was diagonsed little over a year ago with ADHD. I am 30 years old and I have a 7 yrs olf daugther who has it also. I found out I had it because of her. The doctor asked me to take the test too. ADHD-Combined, she told me. I have always looked for love and used sex as a way of showing that love to many many men. After I lost my self-worth, sex become numb for me. The excitement of flirting and teasing men gives me that adreneline that ADHDers need all the time. Not being able to control that urges and impluses has allowed me to single-handedly ruin my marriage. I would love to one day understand what it is that I am truly looking for within myself that makes me continue to hurt the one man who has always been there for me and had my best interest at hand. I have pushed and pushed and pushed him away. I didn’t want to do that. I just didn’t want to accept that he knew something wasn’t right with me and that I needed help….and like a child I rebelled and now he’s gone. He stayed this long because we have three children and he cares for them so much anf he wants for me(their mother)to get healthy.

    • May 5, 2011 at 1:56 pm

      Thanks so much for sharing. I feel your pain. What I sense from what you are writing is that you are looking for your own love for yourself. You truly need to accept and love yourself before you can or will allow anyone else to love you. There are so many gifts you can give yourself to teach you about impulse control, appreciating you as you are, and seeing the light in your own darkness. If you embrace that you may find that you don’t need others to love you, and that love will come in its own time.
      All the best wishes to you.


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