Fine. I am totally ok admitting it to the whole world. I have an addiction to texting that try as I may, I cannot seem to beat. I am admitting now I am completely helpless over it – and asking all of you to help.
Why? Because there doesn’t seem to be many great solutions out there – and I find the best way to overcome something is to find someone else who has done it successfully and build on that.
We don’t have any NIH studies that show success rates of different treatments, so we need to join together and find solutions that work.
You wonder if I am serious? Absolutely. The World Health Organization defines an addiction as a pathological relationship with a mood-altering substance that has life damaging consequences. I can’t tell you how many relationships I have ruined with men because of TEXTING, how many times I have driven / texted, and how much wasted time I have spent checking my cell phone to see if there are texts.
And let’s face it, I get a ‘buzz’ when I see my little orange message up saying I have a text – and then it effects my mood in one of three ways – positively, negatively, or neutrally. Granted, the buzz I get is usually short-term, but sometimes it takes me emotionally very far from the present and inhibits my enjoyment of the moment.
Here is what I have found does NOT work for me:
- Limiting when I can text.
- Cutting texting off from my phone with my phone company.
- Stopping my texting with certain people.
- Cutting off texting with my phone company.
My biggest challenge with this is that I am tired of my all / nothing approaches to anything that interferes in my life, and if I were to be really honest with everyone I would say that I think everyone has addictions to something. It’s a matter of how much joy vs. grief it brings to us.
I have cut so many addictions OUT of my life completely, and sometimes think all I am doing is cutting myself out of FUN and becoming an increasingly boring person. So where is the balance?
Maybe my solution is to just get an old phone that doesn’t work with texting. I’ve thought of that, but love to use the direction finder on the phone and internet when I want to find a movie or look up an issue. And why can’t I just moderate my texts with discipline?
I actually tried to check myself in to a program at one point for texting – and the intake person found that almost funny. I imagined that the only thing that would really keep me safe from my addiction is restraints and 24 hour surveillance. I continually have a hard time wondering just WHERE we draw the line.
Because once you start to think about it, most of society is created to increase our buzz / take us out of the present moment. Is anyone actually enjoying the present moment anymore? If all I wanted to do was enjoy the present moment – wouldn’t I just live in a community that did not have access to processed food, technology, electricity, internet, video games, fast cars, men, drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, designer clothing, and money? Where is that balance and when, exactly, is it ok to leave the moment?
I would love to hear people’s thoughts and ideas – because I am really stumped on this one!