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Seriously? NO Negative Self-talk Rule for Myself?

Microphone PlanetI’m writing today as a reminder to both myself and everyone else in the world that we are all a work in progress.  Beating ourselves up does absolutely NO good, in fact it usually makes things quite worse.  It is quite easy for me to say that to others, but so infrequent that I take time to remind myself.

I had a pretty severe therapy session yesterday.  I mean, I was hating me.  Everything about me.  I was especially focused on my inability to control my texting even after continual negative consequences on my romantic life.

My therapist was great, as she helped me remember that texting is not ALL I AM.  There are many different facets of me, and texting is simply one of them.  Ok, so I am not perfect today with my impulsivity and texting, but I am working on it and life is just that; a work in progress.

I imagined my niece, saying to herself out loud what I was saying to myself.  And I can not imagine how I would react.  I drive my family crazy because they say anything out loud like ‘that was stupid’ to themselves, and I am immediately on them with no negative self-talk!

So what about ourselves?  We are NOT perfection, that is what makes us all unique and so very interesting.  I am NOT my texting, I am NOT my work, I am a multi-faceted person that deserves to be loved by herself – not to just with love for others.

What recent gift have you given to yourself?  Try a day of no negative self-talk.  We are all cool, unique, strange, interesting, flawed, challenging, quirky works in progress.  Embrace it!

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Seriously? NO Negative Self-talk Rule for Myself?

Kathryn Goetzke

I own a company called the Mood-factory (, a company that creates products based on how sensory experiences effect moods. I also run a nonprofit for depressio, iFred (, we are working to change the brand of depression. And yes, I have ADHD, along with PTSD, major depressive disorder, and a host of other challenges, opportunities, and gifts.

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Goetzke, K. (2010). Seriously? NO Negative Self-talk Rule for Myself?. Psych Central. Retrieved on April 9, 2020, from


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