5 thoughts on “Getting Unstuck: 7 Tips for Moving Forward with ADHD, Part II

  • January 25, 2013 at 3:16 am

    Thanks for the post Zoe
    I have found a key to getting unstuck has been learning to break things down to bite-sized, manageable steps..
    When I am feeling stuck- I am usually feeling overwhelmed by all that I see on the road ahead, that I wish to journey across
    Breaking it down into individual steps- and focusing on one step at time, and celebrating each step- has proven to be a very effective strategy for getting unstuck.

    Reply
    • January 25, 2013 at 7:26 am

      Thanks for the tip, Lori. Also known as “chunking;” I admit, I’ve tried it, but it doesn’t come naturally to me. I find transitions very, very difficult so tend to try to focus on one large task and one or two small ones during the day (so I don’t get bored), but to stick with the big one until I get it finished, if I can. (Sometimes unpredictable things crop up that I have to attend to in-the-moment, and that can really throw my day off.)

      Breaking a large project down into smaller tasks sometimes works for me; it depends what the project is (I’m a writer, so sometimes I just have to stick with a piece and keep going or I’ll lose my flow).

      The tactic you describe seems to work for a lot of people, so I’d definitely recommend others try it. Thanks again for helping us out!

      Cheers,
      Zoë

      Reply
  • January 25, 2013 at 10:29 pm

    Zoe
    I still cant even imagine the scenario you painted above. I see the same ole man in the mirror in his little bedroom working his heart out at a job he hates to stay alive. I honestly cant imagine it changing like you describe. I’d settle for even a single day! I enjoy you work, stay at it please.
    Drew

    Reply
  • January 27, 2013 at 7:37 am

    I am realizing that looking back at the past, I got in different kinds of trouble and feel that I was always being yelled at, and always had the disapproving look of major family members. This controlled my life. Not like discipline, but like control. Whether it was because I went out and didn’t want to come home at curfew times, to the fact that I was smart and didn’t want to buckle down and study or work, it wasn’t until an employer gave me some freedom that I found a place to work. I was late 15 minutes every day, and the employer took it out of my pay each day. That was ok with me. I was a kid and the pay cheque was good enough for me at the end of the week. I was also doing the same work that elsewhere would pay double the amount, so they were happy. I always settled for less than I deserved and it was my own fault. (ADHD is no ones fault) I worked with family for several years in my adulthood always trying to study or find a niche with my newfound education. Still, I don’t move out of the simple place I’m in and I have the ability to do so. I am like the mercury that falls into little balls of mercury that Hallowel describes in his book ‘Driven to Distraction.’ I slso don’t like being put in a box, in a corporate setting, with the flock so to speak. “Me? Answer to someone?” I am more stuck now as an adult that wants a little fame and can’t go about it with all that feels like hangups, or ADHD, the old ball and chain? So I take on all the tasks that my immediate family cannot do with sick family members, or the footwork that no one else wants to do. There is praise and glory there, the others’ move on, and I am always there pulling the ball and chain, and holding down the fort for everyone. ADHDer love praise right? I hope I haven’t confused you Zoe. These two articles are right up my stuck alley.

    Reply
    • February 2, 2013 at 10:19 am

      Hi Jane 49,

      Sorry it’s taken me so long to respond; I’m up to my eyeballs in final revisions of my book and having trouble getting to much else.

      I do hope, and in fact believe, that as you continue on your journey, you’ll find your own unique way of becoming “unstuck.” Why? You’re asking all the right questions, and if ye seek, so ye shall find. (Or something like that).

      Just keep going and don’t forget to take care of yourself too!

      Wishing you peace,
      Zoë

      Reply
 

Join the Conversation!

We invite you to share your thoughts and tell us what you think in this public forum. Before posting, please read our blog moderation guidelines. A first name or pseudonym is required and will be displayed with your comment. Your email address is also required, but will be kept private. (Please note that we use gravatars here, which are tied to your email address.) A website/blog/twitter address is optional.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *