4 thoughts on “A Little Coping Is Better Than None

  • April 1, 2017 at 10:14 pm

    The weekly newsletter has given me knowledge that I’ve never had and I’m old! My whole life I’ve felt so ashamed of the way I am, I thought my symptoms were character defects and I was just awful because I couldn’t change. I can’t get rid of those negative feelings. The problem I’m having is that I’ve been judged negatively my whole life, and still am. I can’t get rid of those feelings because I’ve had them my whole life. I get anxiety just writing these facts. It gives me a sense of relief knowing, through you, that there is a true reason for my symptoms and the reason isn’t me!

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    • April 6, 2017 at 3:32 pm

      I really appreciate that, Scrambled — thanks for commenting. I know what you mean. I think the trick is to move toward seeing our ADHD symptoms neutrally and scientifically for what they are rather than as evidence that we’re inherently flawed — which is a gradual process, preferably one done with the help of a therapist.

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  • April 10, 2017 at 9:08 am

    “Don’t even worry about stopping procrastination generally. Just focus on the few areas of your life where your tendency to procrastinate causes you the most problems. Then look for a system that will help you organize these areas of your life in a new way.”

    This part of your post hit home for me because it was a very similar comment from an internist my GP sent me to that lead to my diagnosis two years ago. I had been complaining about several symptoms that were affecting my life but that doctors could not connect to my diagnosed medical issues so my GP sent me to an internist. He took the most in depth medical history a doctor has ever taken from me and then told me that there were no obvious avenues of investigation suggested by my answers, that he could do 100 tests to try and find what is wrong with me and he may or may not come up with an answer. He suggested instead I pick the 2 or 3 symptoms that bothered me the most in my life and simply treat the symptoms instead of looking for a disease.

    When my GP and I discussed the symptoms I was having to decide which 3 bothered me the most that lead her to say “A bunch of the symptoms that bother you are symptoms of ADHD, to be thorough fill out this questionnaire and it will tell me if I should send you for an assessment” and the rest is history.

    One or two issues at a time can make a huge difference even if it does not solve the entire problem.

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    • April 12, 2017 at 2:13 pm

      Thanks for sharing your experience, Kara! It’s great that you had a doctor who really took to the time to figure out the best diagnosis and treatment for you. There are a lot of comments on here from people who have been dealing with medical professionals who don’t have experience with ADHD or brush off concerns about ADHD, so it’s nice to see an example of the process working.

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