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Figuring It Out Yourself

In life, there are some things you have to figure out for yourself. That’s even more true when you have ADHD.

In school, for example, I did a lot of figuring it out myself. In fact, I’ve always been better at teaching myself things than learning them from other people.

Part of it is the traditional structure of how learning happens, with lectures, verbal explanations, and a list of topics to study provided externally, without regard for personal interests. That type of learning isn’t especially accommodating of inattentive lapses, or fluctuating motivation based on how engaging the topic at hand is.

PuzzleOn the other hand, when I’m free to put my energy into topics I find interesting, to select the sources I’m learning from, to pace myself based on which learning activities I need to put in more and less time on, I can usually have some success in teaching myself things. So even if I wasn’t a good student in the traditional sense, I was able to compensate at least a little by teaching myself some things.

There’s a more general point here about ADHD. When you have ADHD, often the “typical” way of doings won’t work well for your brain. You’ll need to figure out a different way of doing things that does work well for you.

In short, coping with ADHD isn’t something that you can learn from a textbook. To be sure, books about ADHD, support groups, therapists and ADHD coaches can all provide invaluable insights and tips. But in the end, there’s still going to be an element of figuring it out yourself as you work out how to apply what you’ve learned about ADHD to your life.

For example, you’ll have to figure out how to do the job you have in a way that accommodates your ADHD symptoms. As a result, the day-to-day details of how you approach your work might look different from your coworkers. And if that’s not possible, sometimes you’ll have to figure out how to get a new job altogether, a job that can be done in a way that accommodates your symptoms.

You’ll also have to navigate the relationships in your life given your ADHD symptoms. That will include mitigating the potential for ADHD symptoms to damage those relationships and figuring out if, when and how to disclose the fact that you have ADHD. All of which will depend on the nature of those relationships and the specific people involved.

My point isn’t to make coping with ADHD seem like an insurmountable challenge, or to say that you have to do it alone. In fact, it can be done, and discussing the challenges you encounter with mental health professionals and other ADHDers will make a difference.

The amazing thing is that people with ADHD already do a lot of this problem solving without necessarily realizing it. If you have ADHD, you’ve probably already done a lot of figuring it out yourself, regardless of whether you have a diagnosis.

Granted, figuring it out yourself usually involves a certain amount of failure. You can’t teach yourself something without trial-and-error experimentation. That’s how it goes. Just don’t forget to acknowledge the amount of problem solving you have done in your own life up to this point in order to cope with ADHD, and don’t forget that those skills are there for you to build on going forward!

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Figuring It Out Yourself


Neil Petersen

Neil Petersen writes regularly on education, learning disabilities and technology. He received his B.A. in 2014 and was diagnosed with ADHD at the beginning of his college studies. Neil also works for a music education non-profit and hopes to help create an education system that can better serve students with ADHD.


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Petersen, N. (2019). Figuring It Out Yourself. Psych Central. Retrieved on December 6, 2019, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/adhd-millennial/2019/09/figuring-it-out-yourself/

 

Last updated: 4 Sep 2019
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